- April 21, 2017 at 12:22 pm #682987
Yes to what everyone else has said about time, therapy, and spending time focusing on you/doing things you enjoy. A couple years ago, when I was really struggling to get over someone who had cheated on me and then married that woman, I took up running. I can’t say enough how much it helped not just to exercise, but to have a goal-oriented physical challenge. It was an activity that took up the mental energy that was easy to waste on things like feeling sorry for myself or letting my mind falling too far down the “wtf did I do to be treated this way?” hole. I’d set bigger and bigger goals for myself, and within a few months, had signed up for my first half marathon. I couldn’t run to save my life when I first started out — literally would’ve died if I’d had to run for my life, haha — but it turned out to be something I really enjoy. It made me feel accomplished, and gave me confidence when I had very little. I think most people dealing with a breakup would benefit from an activity that does this for them, so I’d encourage you to find your version of running, whatever that is for you.