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- March 9, 2017 at 8:50 pm #676774
Hello! So quite some time ago I finally got to know the members of my favourite band after a show of them. Time went by and one of them would text me every now and then. I kind of liked him but I wasn’t going crazy or anything. Last week they came back to my city for a show and I ended up staying in their apartment for a couple of days and having sex with that special one of them. He acted like he was actually interested in me and I started liking him more and more. Now, some days later, they’ve gone back to their state and I’m here all alone constantly thinking about him and waiting for a call/text. He texts me like once every 3 days, we chat for about 5′ and then we stop. I know this is not working out since he’s far away and busy and after all he might not feel the same way as I do, but I really can’t stop thinking about the moments we shared. What should I do?March 10, 2017 at 9:01 pm #676942
Chalk it up to being a groupie and date available people.March 10, 2017 at 9:17 pm #676944
Chalk it up to experience and a good anecdote.
I slept with a famous ish indie musician before they were famous and I smile whenever they release a new song.March 10, 2017 at 9:17 pm #676945
These guys often are sleeping with multiple people, depending on what city they are in. Not all musicians do that, but I think you can assume that if he’s hooking up with you, then he’s probably hooking up with other people. It sounds like you’re not someone who does well with casual hookups, so I think it’s probably best to disengage.March 13, 2017 at 6:51 pm #677737
Guys, a quick update:
I’ll be traveling to his city for a shooting (I’m a model and I swear this trip was not planned by me, it was my agency that arranged this job for me). I told him about the job and he insisted on me staying at his place for all 4 days I’ll be there. I agreed. However, after reading your answers, I guess I should be really careful and not take this whole thing very seriously since I guess he is not in love or anything. I guess I should kind of adjust to these “random hook up” situations…March 13, 2017 at 7:27 pm #677739
Yeah, I mean, it sounds like a sex thing, which is fine if you can get your head in that place. But don’t do it if you’re going to be feeling shitty afterward.March 13, 2017 at 7:31 pm #677740
If you’re going there to work, why not just stay in the place your work is paying you to stay? Hook up with him if you want, but keep your independence… and maybe get some sleep if you’re there to model.March 13, 2017 at 9:31 pm #677748
Oh my god, Kate, how did I not think about getting some good sleep? I’ll probably still stay at his place though, because it seems like such an opportunity, you know. Oh my god I act like a 13-year-old fangirl (I’m 23 by the way). I think I’ll do it this one time again and never do it again because this whole thing really stresses me out.March 14, 2017 at 3:37 pm #677878
If it stresses you out don’t do it this time.
Get your own place and maybe see him.
If he has “the feelz” for you he’ll make it happen to come see you too.March 14, 2017 at 8:08 pm #677910
I personally think a drink or two at the hotel bar and then heading upstairs for a dirty shag sounds way better than staying with some dude you don’t know very well and trying to avoid their morning stink. Talk about ruining the mystery! What if his place is gross?March 24, 2017 at 7:41 pm #679432
Update: I just came back to my hometown after my trip. My shooting went very well, I stayed at his place for two more days. We had much fun and we also spent some time with the rest of the band members. We also had sex a couple of times. I don’t think this has a future though, for all of the reasons I have listed above. Let’s wish I will be fine from now on!