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    I recently started a job 1 month ad a half ago in my career which i graduated in May from. I really don’t like my job,so I decided to look for another job, ad now have an interview Tuesday (the place looks awesome). I am guilt tripping, my current boss wants to give me more hours, but I said I was fine with it for this week, but I know they need employees but I really dislike the place, and if I stay here I am not sure if it’s my career I hate or the clinic I’m at. Is it okay to go for another job after only being there for a month? I have not signed any contract, and the hours varies every week like crazy (which i dislike as well). Should I discuss with my current boss im searching for another place, or should I act as normal and only give my 2 week warning that im leaving the job when I get the other job? I feel so bad and feel so selfish, but i hate my life and dont want it to stay like that… So is it okay?/ What should i do ?

    #696839 Reply

    You need to do what’s best for you. If they have a problem with new employee turnover, then that’s bad business practice on their part and not your problem. Don’t discuss with your boss that you’re searching – that might give them grounds to fire you. Just give your two weeks after you’ve found a new job and move on to better things.

    Don’t feel selfish – employment is a business transaction, not a moral one.

    #696843 Reply

    I think the part that you do need to think further about is your confusion over whether you want to quit because of the job or the career. I agree that if this is a bad job, then you need to do what’s best for you. But what if the next job is just as bad? What if you find out it’s the career you don’t like? If you stay in a job for a month before moving on, ideally, you need to aim to be in your next job longer, so try to get a good idea of your fit with the new place.

    #696845 Reply

    What specifically do you not like about the place? Is it the type of work, the work conditions, the people with whom you work? Those are important answers and will help you get to the career vs workplace answer.

    It could be the type of work and you need to move to a new job because you don’t want to do that work anymore.
    It could be the work conditions which could improve or worsen with the specific place.
    It could be the people which could improve or worsen with a new place.

    So tell us – what don’t you like and why do you think this new place would be better. I’m not saying you’re wrong – I’m saying you’re asking two questions (should I stay/go – is it my career or workplace that’s an issue) and I don’t think I have enough info to answer.

    #696847 Reply

    You’ve only been there a month. Are you sure you dislike it that much?

    Also I agree with above – does your field act the same way all over? Unsure hours, type of job and what not? Research your company you’re interviewing with. Don’t interview and jump blindly because you could end up here again.

    #696858 Reply

    If you do leave do not put it on your resume since it is only a month. It will reflect very poorly and it is such a short amount of time there is no need to.

    #696861 Reply

    It is a big, BIG step to walk away from a field you studied to work in. Whether you have a doctorate, a 4-year degree, or an associate degree it represents a HUGE investment of your time, effort, money, and foregone income from the gainful work you could otherwise have been doing. A month and a half is no time at all in the course of a career.

    Yes, if your current employer stinks and you have a chance to move to what looks like a much better fit, then you should move. You should move with the expectation that you have to stay at least 2 years at your new employer or face a ton of questioning about your resume when you next seek a job.

    Do know the following:
    — most fields encompass a broad range of work possibilities and the same academic preparation can make you employable in very different activities

    — most employers don’t involve you in the more important/challenging work in your first year. You have to prove to them that you can do quality work and earn more challenging/interesting work by doing so. From the standpoint of your employer/manager you’ve just barely walked in the door after a month and a half

    — for most of us, the transition from school to paid work is a shock. Yes, school occupies you ‘full time’, but in that full time you have lots of free periods to chat with friends, do something other than attend class and study. For me, being at work, mainly seated at my desk working with not a lot of chat time with fellow employees, for 9 hours including lunch hour and not including commute time was tough to adjust to. You learn to do it and it becomes commonplace. That is what work is in most jobs. There are parts you enjoy, parts that are tedious and unpleasant, but it is a big stretch of time each day. Be sure it is the career/employer you don’t like rather than adjustment to the world of work.

    — there are good managers and bad. Some will train you for what you are doing, some will give you some guidelines, some will just throw you into the water. Some will set clear standards for your work product and some won’t but will complain after the fact. Some will give you positive feedback and encouragement and some will say very little — this can also be a shock moving from the world of school and family to the world of work

    — in school you have all the info you need to solve a problem and there isn’t usually a clutter of irrelevant info thrown in. Just the opposite in the world of work. If you don’t understand initially, ask — either a colleague or your boss

    #696864 Reply

    I don’t have time to write out a long response, but a few things:

    Companies have no loyalty to you whatsoever, and job-hopping isn’t as big a deal as it used to be; you have to expect to move around and it’s ok to do so


    A month is nothing, and it’s often too soon to tell how the job could evolve and what it will really be like. You also have to realize that you can’t expect to just walk into a job and it’s your dream job and everything is fabulous. Loving your job is also a big factor of what you put into it and how you shape it. You can’t do that in a month.

    Do NOT EVER tell your boss you’re looking. Once you have an offer, and it’s a good enough offer that you’re willing to leave, you tell your boss you have an offer. If you want, give them a chance to counter offer. If not, give your notice.

    #696940 Reply

    If I understood this correctly, you graduated just a few months ago and have been at your job for a month and a half, right? If so, I think there’s very little consequence in leaving this job for another one that you think might be a better fit. You can easily leave it off your resume without worrying that there’s a suspicious gap if you recently graduated.

    Everyone here has made a good point about how a month and a half isn’t really much time to invest in a job. Most entry-level jobs aren’t going to be that much fun. So think long and hard about whether the next job will actually be a better fit before you leave this place. The grass isn’t always greener, and you don’t want to job hop TOO much.

    I say do what you have to do. Don’t feel guilty if you’re looking out for yourself and your best interests; companies will always put them company, not the employees, first. And no, don’t tell your boss you’re looking.

    #696967 Reply

    Unless this is a toxic place or something I should add that a lot of people don’t like their jobs. Heck most people don’t love their jobs. We have bills to pay though so we suck it up. It is great if you can like what you do but it simply may never happen. For a huge percentage of the population that is reality. I think when we are younger we all assume we will have this amazing career we love. Very common misconception.

    Also, if you want to get to where you do love what you do, you have to suck it up and not love some parts of it for a long time. That is how you put your dues in to get that job you love. You don’t just get to graduate and have your dream job.

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