- January 11, 2017 at 11:18 am #668444
It’s okay, I’m glad other people were able to get some questions answered. And thanks! I’m still of the opinion that if something is really important to you, you should find a tactful way of saying it. Otherwise, you won’t be happy in the job and you’ll leave. And no one wants that after the time and expense of recruiting.January 11, 2017 at 11:47 am #668451
I have to completely disagree that asking about working from home/flexibility/hours/work-life balance during an interview is a mistake and makes you look bad. I am an engineer, and have asked on every single interview about these things and never had anyone bat an eye, and it’s never affected me getting an offer. Times have also changed drastically and flexibility is big in a lot of industries now; it is extremely normal and common to ask about. It could be that certain industries are different, but interviews are a two way street. If working from home or having flexibility is important, waiting until after an offer is on the table to ask could mean everyone just wasted a ton of time. Just ask in a professional way and mix those questions in with others about the job and the company.
Also, it might help to stop thinking about keeping your interview plans private as “lying”. A good company understands how delicate changing jobs can be, and they arent going to hound you when you put in your notice for saying you had a doctor’s appointment when you really went to an interview. It’s a very normal part of doing business and having employees. As long as you show up on time, put in your hours, are generally respectful of your employer’s time, and are otherwise responsible with your leave then don’t sweat it.January 11, 2017 at 11:55 am #668453
That’s a good point @golfer.gal, I do know that it is just business. But when it’s a really tiny teeny small company, and I’ve been here for over eight years, it becomes more like a family. I know that they’ll be upset to see me go but I won’t let that stop me of course… I just have a really great relationship with my immediate director here now, and I’d like to be more honest with him as I’ll be leaving him in the lurch. Unless I hire some superstar to take my place, which I hope to!
It actually works to their benefit as my wage is really high and they could hire someone new at a lower rate.
January 11, 2017 at 11:56 am #668455
- This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by Nookie.
Everybody I know who has ever been “honest” about a second interview that they were “sure” about didn’t get the job and then got fired. Seriously, lie. Lie. LIE!
PS — Employers do this to employees ALL the time.January 11, 2017 at 11:56 am #668456
Also, do you think this dress would be appropriate for a second interview? I really like it, does it need a suit jacket?January 11, 2017 at 11:59 am #668457
Aye @BGM, you’re probably right there… At least I can go to the second interview and hopefully have some good news to come back from my holiday to!January 11, 2017 at 11:59 am #668458
@nookie, I feel the same way…guilty about lying to leave work for interviews. I once had an interview in the city, 90 minutes away, so I had to suddenly take the whole day off. I made up that I had to have something in my apartment fixed and the guy couldn’t tell me when he was going to be able to come. I did need something fixed, but it wasn’t going to be fixed until the following week. Another time I said I had a doctor’s appointment and left at 3:30 for a 4 pm interview. Even though I really want to leave my company, it’s also small and I like my boss, and I hate being dishonest. But, it’s what has to be done. Unfortunately nothing has panned out and I’ve been stuck here for 10 years.January 11, 2017 at 12:00 pm #668459
And yup, my company has fired people who they knew were looking for other jobs.January 11, 2017 at 12:01 pm #668461
That’s a gorgeous dress and I want it!! It looks like it might be a bit low cut, so maybe wear a blazer with it to an interview.January 11, 2017 at 12:01 pm #668462
That’s the thing @K, if I tell them I’m looking for something then they’ll have to start thinking seriously about getting someone in because they can’t afford not to have someone in this role.
I hope you find something better soon, 10 years is a loooooooooooong time.January 11, 2017 at 12:03 pm #668463
I’m posting like a mad woman now! @missdre, it’s got a modesty panel in the front but I’ll check the cleavage when I try it on. And I’ll see if there are any cute blazers on sale, thanks!January 11, 2017 at 12:23 pm #668467
Yeah I have huge boobs so I’d probably still have cleavage popping out if I wore that dress lol. It’s really nice, though. I might get it for myself if I get this job haha.
I talked to the other company, the one I really wanted to work for. They said they still haven’t got approval from HR and things are tied up likely til the end of the month.