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April 17, 2017 at 9:52 am #682272
Rent the Runway has a bunch of beautiful maxis! I love this one and almost ordered it for a wedding last year.April 17, 2017 at 9:56 am #682275
I’ve shied away from full length dresses from RTR for similar reasons. (I’m 5’2″.) I’ve never used hem tape, but imagine it would be a potential solution to a maxi dress from RTR that’s too long. I think you might be able to find something you like if you read comments from other women about your height to have an idea of how they actually fit, or check to see if they have anything for petites. A company that’s affiliated with mine hosts a formal gala every fall and I think I’m expected to go this year, and I’m PUMPED about potentially finding a beautiful designer gown from RTR.April 18, 2017 at 1:28 pm #682468
Another RTR fan here. I have used it for a bunch of weddings, as well as a few date nights. I took the plunge because we were attending a formal wedding and I didn’t want to either spend a ton of money on a dress I knew I’d only wear once, or NOT spend a ton of money and look like I was just wearing a cheap long dress. I joined their “VIP” program or whatever it is for $25/year that covers all of the insurance and shipping, plus they give you $50 off a rental for your birthday! I love it. I’ve been able to rock some fancy things that I would never buy in real life. You can also rent accessories!April 18, 2017 at 1:40 pm #682473
I LOVE RTR! I will never buy another special occasion dress (that I will only wear once) again! You can have the rental for 4 days so if the wedding is on a Saturday and you get it sent to you on a Thursday, they’d have plenty of time to ship something else to you overnight. I just wore a dress for Easter to church on Sunday and got so many compliments.
I rent maxi dresses all the time from RTR. If they are too long or short, I change what shoes I’m going to wear.April 18, 2017 at 5:20 pm #682490
I would’t, if I were you, it is a lovely dress but it is long, white, and if there are any older more traditional people there they may feel you are trying to distract attention from the bride.April 18, 2017 at 6:08 pm #682493
So – I know I get cantankerous about weddings and wedding etiquette that strikes me as pointless (and it sounds like the OP has already decided on an alternative), but I can’t not put this out there – who cares what people you don’t know think?
The *only* person you should care about is the bride. If you know the bride is fine with you wearing a dress that is white, but in my opinion, very un-wedding dress like, then who cares what some older relatives in her family may think? Honestly – how often are you going to hang out with your friend’s older conservative family members outside of her wedding?
Probably never? So as long as you aren’t upsetting your friend, whatever, let those old biddies say whatever they want. If you wearing a dress that has a white background prevents them from focusing on the wedding, that’s really more about them.April 18, 2017 at 6:38 pm #682497
I would rather not have people think I’m rude or clueless in social situations, so I try to wear what’s appropriate for the occasion, particularly if there are people there I don’t know. If it’s a funeral, I’m definitely going to be in a *black dress* that’s not low cut or too short. If it’s a costume party, I’m going all out with my costume and will stick to the theme that the host dreamed up. If the invitation says cocktail, I’m in a cocktail dress. If it’s formal I’ll wear a gown. It’s polite. I don’t want people thinking I don’t care or can’t figure it out.April 18, 2017 at 6:45 pm #682498
At my own wedding that I paid for, I’ll twerk with my ass hanging out, and I am fine with what everyone is wearing. But I do look at people at other people’s weddings and think, “oh, poor thing,” or “wtf.” Maybe I’m going to hell.April 18, 2017 at 7:02 pm #682501
I think there’s definitely bigger etiquette issues than wearing white, but I feel like if a person does care a little bit about those things, might as well just not wear it. I do think prints are a little different than a solid white dress.
I guess I assume that anybody who’d ask others about if it’s OK or not probably cares enough that it’s best to just wear something else.April 18, 2017 at 7:08 pm #682503
It’s a family wedding. So there are not any old biddies that I don’t care about, they are all the old biddies that I do care about. It’s not a traditional wedding, (it’s also at night, in a treehouse) but I found another dress that will be totally perfect, so no worries!
I don’t think anyone would care if I did wear that dress, but I am not going to wear it. I also have two kids, so I doubt it would survive the entire evening without some handprints or juice stains or whatever. The dress and I weren’t meant to be. Thanks, everyone. I know I can trust you all for wedding etiquette and fashion questions.April 18, 2017 at 7:18 pm #682505
Oh, you didn’t say it was in a TREEhouse.April 18, 2017 at 7:21 pm #682507
I hope you got something whimsical, with like leaves or clouds on it, and some sort of fairy crown.