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I/we survived the birthday party

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
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    Guys, not only did I survive Jackson’s 6th birthday party — it was actually a happy and successful one! Jackson hasn’t had a birthday party in three years (his choice) — he can get really overwhelmed in social situations, especially if he’s center of the attention and there’s a lot of sensory stimuli (which, of course, there always is at a party with kids). The last party he had — when he turned 3 — was kind of a disaster. It’s a lot of work to throw a kid’s party, so to have it not go well is really disappointing as a parent (and you feel so bad for the kid, too, and guilty that you couldn’t pull off making him happy).

    This past year has been almost life-changing for us — Jackson has grown so much, and has learned a lot about expressing and regulating his emotions and handling different social situations well. He decided he wanted a party this year, which was a pretty big step for him, and of course, we wanted to give him one. But I was so nervous it would be a disaster like the last one three years ago.

    On Saturday, Jackson was behaving in ways we haven’t seen with any regularity for months and it made me even more anxious about the party the next day. Fortunately though, it went really well! He was so happy and I think his friends had a lot of fun, too. I was exhausted when it was over, but it was a satisfying kind of exhaustion, which is so much better than the kind where you’re just really frustrated and sad, which I had a lot of experience with in the first five years of parenthood. Here’s to a new chapter and things looking up. I can’t tell you how relieved I feel today!

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    Miss MJ

    I’m glad it went well!

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    LisforLeslie

    Very cool. You must have felt very proud; whatever you’re doing at home and whatever they are doing at school is working. Way to go little man.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
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    Thank you! School, though, gets zero credit yet. Last year was a nightmare and I had work extra hard to counteract its potential harm. This year, fortunately is much, much better. #AdovocateAdvocateAdvocate

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    Stillrunning

    I’m glad it went well. It’s nice that his birthday is during the school year. I had the devil of a time throwing birthday parties for my two kids; one was born in the middle of summer and the other was in March. Finding kids who weren’t gone on vacation in the summer or during Spring Break was tough.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
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    Stillrunning, Joanie’s bday is in July, so I imagine I’ll be up against the same with her (but she is also super social and so far — she’s only two — seems to makes friends very easily, so I don’t anticipate worrying about her in the same way). My bday is right after labor day and was usually during the first or second week of school growing up. Since I moved so much, I often hadn’t made friends yet by my birthday and I can remember some pretty lonely ones. Oh, birthdays! They can be so fraught, no matter what age you are.

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    Lianne
    Lianne

    Such great news, Wendy! Parenthood is sooooo hard. You are doing a great job advocating and being the best mom you can be for both of your kids. I am so happy for you all that Jackson had a fun birthday celebration. It seems minor, but I am sure it was such a huge sense of achievement for you as a parent and watching him as your son. I am sure the road will be paved with more ups and downs, but celebrate the small wins!!

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    Leslie Joan

    That’s great news, especially coming at the time that it did. Good to hear.

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    MaterialsGirl
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    Great news! Yay, Jackson! I’m sure he was thrilled to have such a good time especially since I know you’ve alluded to his struggles.

    I’m also a July birthday, and we got a party every other year (and then i think my last one was at 13?). The best part was going to a waterpark or some sort of outdoor activity and there’s always plenty of kids to have over for that kinda thing. The school let us celebrate “half birthdays” for the summer kids, so I would bring in treats on January 16

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    Rangerchic
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    Just wanted to say so happy the party went well and he had a good time 🙂

    One of my girls birthday is in early June so it was always hit or miss if they were still in school. But she is the social butterfly and usually had some kind of party. The other is the end of January-so unless snow storms, school was usually in session. But she is the introvert one who didn’t really have many parties..mostly one or two friends to stay the night (which was fine with me!).

    My birthday is mid-December which I have to say sucks. It’s a week and a day ahead of Xmas which meant I didn’t really get birthday parties or presents (we were to poor). It really only sucked as a teenager, more or less.

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    Skyblossom
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    I’m so glad for Jackson. My friend’s son has sensory issues and it was a difficult childhood. It’s fantastic that things are turning around for him.

    #723028 Reply

    That’s such good news Wendy, I’m so glad Jackson had fun and the party went well!

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