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- March 20, 2017 at 9:34 am #678679
Try reading the book “have him at HELLO, confessions from 1,000 guys about what makes them fall in love…or never call back” by Rachel Greenwald.
You can buy it on Amazon or check your school library and see if it is there. Also check your local public library and see if they have it. Ask at the reference desk. If they don’t have it they can usually borrow it from another library.
You are fast approaching the age where being obnoxious means you don’t even get to a second date with a guy.March 20, 2017 at 11:18 am #678699
Skyblossom is making a really important point about people tolerating less nonsense in dating partners as they get older.
There’s kind of a divide between the way teenagers conduct relationships and the way adults do. The way you talk about your behavior made me think of a high school relationship. The taunting him with talk of other guys to make him jealous, the empty threats to break up when you fight, picking at him…that’s teenager stuff. And that’s probably why you said that’s just stuff that girls do. Because your friends do it.
But it’s not stuff that *women* do. The behavior you describe kills adult relationships, really fast. Because as Skyblossom said, adults won’t tolerate it. They want a partner, a friend. Someone who respects them enough to tell them the truth and not play mind games with them. Adults in good relationships have each other’s backs.March 20, 2017 at 1:01 pm #678711
didnt think it was a too much biggie because i just found something that I would not agree with myself either and realized something that myself dont even a gree on, and some other grammatical mistakes as I was reading multiple times. i think its such a hasty judgment saying me editing my post tells you why my bf wanted to break up with me.March 20, 2017 at 1:06 pm #678714
And thanks skyblossom and Essie.
I think my mentality when it comes to dating/relationship was totally still in highschool. I met a guy in highschool and our relationship was not mature at all, and it seems like its time to seriously choose the person that I am dating.. Thanks everyone I really do know what was wrong and what I need to work on.March 20, 2017 at 1:10 pm #678716
@PurpleStar – Even with the phrases you quoted removed from the original post, I’m still in agreement with just about everyone else on here. LW, you’re immature and need to stop playing games. The pattern of each story you tell her is that you pick a fight, then he gets mad and walks away. Most people would walk away, tbh. If you’re on the brink of graduating you’re probably 21-22 years old, and way, way too old to act like this. Worry less about his red flags and more about your own.March 22, 2017 at 11:33 am #679009
You two are not compatible and you are controlling and needy. The “had me at Hello” book as recommended above is excellent.March 23, 2017 at 11:19 am #679229
uh… man. I just broke up with someone who pulled these kinds of jealous stunts and every day without him seems brighter, lighter and happier. In other words: you are a drag. work on yourself before subjecting others to this nonsense.