My Mother is having a Christmas party for her side of the family this year. I received this message from her informing me that this man who she has been talking to online is planning on coming to the party with his children. We live in Canada and he is in Texas. This is the first time I heard about this person. I don’t even know his name or anything else about him. She’s asking that we be nice to him. I think it’s the wrong time and I’m upset that she’s sprung this on me. Is it wrong of me to feel this way or should I be more supportive?
We need more context. How long has she been single? How old are you? Have you met other boyfriends of hers? Why do you think this isn’t the “right time” to meet someone she’s dating? When would be a better time?
Yup, Wendy is right, your post definitely lacks important details!
I am of two minds about this, overall. On one hand, maybe your mom is being catfished or he’s a grifter or she is otherwise being taken advantage of. On the other, I don’t think that’s your concern… sounds more like you don’t want her to date which may explain her secrecy up to this point.
Easy solution though… ask her for more details! (Like his name, for starters) And then report back!
Yup, need more details, but reading between the lines, has your mom met this man before? My initial reaction is the holidays aren’t the best time to meet SOs when there is more stress around. When is this Christmas party? Early December or closer to the date? Sure you can be more supportive but I’m assuming your apprehension is coming from somewhere.