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November 8, 2017 at 11:04 am #726379
This marriage sounds awful. LW needs to make a plan to leave, but to be VERY careful. This wife sounds unhinged and vindictive, and definitely not above making wild accusations and using the children as pawns in all this. She is already accusing her husband of inappropriate thoughts/actions towards their six-year-old daughter. I don’t doubt that she would hesitate to lob that bomb into divorce proceedings. A custody battle with a person like this is going to be a nightmare. LW, get all your ducks in a row legally and document EVERYTHING if you want to maintain a relationship with your kids.
This woman is an abuser. If LW was a woman, writing about a man, we’d be concerned that he’d escalate to physical violence, not advising her to think about how well the household chores are divided and why he might be so angry.November 8, 2017 at 11:39 am #726389
Lawyer lawyer lawyer. Go for custody. Find out what the recording laws are in your state and if it’s legal record her abuse. Document everything. Get copies of any and all financial records. Document your status as the primary caregiver. You cannot allow this to continue.November 8, 2017 at 11:41 am #726390
I think it’s pretty sad that the first comment tries to find the “reason” for the wife’s disgusting abuse; it must the husband not taking out the garbage or cleaning up the kids’ breakfast, right?
LW, you need to divorce this woman before she escalates to smacking you around in addition to making sure you feel completely worthless. Nobody deserves to live this way. Your kids are watching their dad be verbally beaten down every day. That’s not good for them. You don’t want them thinking their mom’s behavior is normal—or growing up to treat their own spouses this way. Right?November 8, 2017 at 12:20 pm #726392
Contact a Lawyer.
Text her this link — immediately.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5FjWe31S_0gNovember 8, 2017 at 6:52 pm #726447
Lawyer. And a therapist for you. You don’t deserve this.November 15, 2017 at 12:24 pm #727012
I didn’t read all of your letter. I made it about a paragraph in, and that was enough to make me think you need to leave. Lawyer up, and get your half of that 2 million. Get your ducks in a row first, then leave. It may be difficult for you to leave if your wife is truly that abusive. As a man, you may not think of yourself that way but if the gender roles were reversed, I’d be worried.November 15, 2017 at 3:00 pm #727019
Yes. Get yourself to a lawyer. You’ve been carrying the family finances while she’s been saving, but it sounds to me that you’ve kept those two accounts separate. Why? Her extensive zeros in her bank account might be causing some of her deeply seeded dark side to come out. I bet if you even the financial playing field, you might see a different side.
Combine the account – see what happens. (And, visit a lawyer)November 16, 2017 at 8:42 pm #727086
What a terrible marriage. Her accusation that you’re having sexual thoughts about your 6-yr-old daughter is a harbinger of what she’ll do if you try to divorce her. Which you should do.
Go to a lawyer and find out what you need to do to document the abuse. Be informed; don’t play nice.