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September 6, 2017 at 6:10 pm #716383
Omg. What a gigantic pile of BS over-analysis, both the letter and the response. The LW dislikes the people, because their personalities grate on her, but she still really really wants them to like her. Howzabout maybe they dislike her, because her personality grates on them, and they detest her phony baloney attempts to show interest.
Yanno, like, people are allowed not to be bestest buds. I practically wanted to smack her for that long whiny complaint, and definitely wanted to smack Ask Polly for a long azz response that was 4 times as long as it needed to be.September 6, 2017 at 6:19 pm #716384
Polly’s responses are always novels. I barely skim them, they’re always way too long and take forever to get to any point. And the people who write to her seem to often be early-mid 20’s navel gazers like the LW… This LW sounds pretty insufferable.September 6, 2017 at 8:32 pm #716398
I’ve never even met that LW and I hate her too. Funny how her coworkers know all this amazing stuff about her life yet none of the less than amazing stuff. Could it be she’s an insufferable braggart? We may never know….September 8, 2017 at 5:58 pm #716555
Dang I don’t know if that article was shared on here because it relates to me or trying to shame me or something, but jeez the judgement on this board makes it not very inviting to ask for people’s advice. It’s like you all are saying to worry about your coworkers liking you is super annoying and unprofessional. Where’s the compassion and trying to be understanding. I think the way the questioner wrote that article came across wrong. But posting this on my question and then everyone bashing on the questioner in that article has definitely made me realize not to come back on here again.September 8, 2017 at 6:00 pm #716557
@ange and to you “hate” someone you’ve never met is pretty extreme, especially write that on a advice board that is supposed to be welcoming and a safe place for people having a hard time.September 8, 2017 at 6:11 pm #716558
There were a bunch of these kinds of posts all at once, and Wendy just put it here to show it seems to be a theme. That letter is ridiculous, come on.
But honestly, if you just do your job and be pleasant and friendly and effective, which is what’s important, people will like you. Not everyone maybe, but enough. And if the culture is truly toxic, you find another job.September 8, 2017 at 6:58 pm #716561
Jessica, I’m confused. Those comments after the linked article were about the letter writer to Ask Polly, not you. Though Ask Polly herself is pretty darned annoying herself, lol. Comment threads can get off onto a lot of tangents, and that’s what happened here. You were not being attacked, and in fact in response to your first letter, I particularly remember how completely supportive and sympathetic everyone was. There is no reason to feel attacked because the conversation took off in a related direction. Ange’s comment was directed at the Ask Polly LW, I am certain, not to you.
You are sensible, and you seem to listen to advice. There others who aren’t and don’t, and those will get a harsher response.September 8, 2017 at 11:22 pm #716577
Yeah calm down mate, I’ve said nice things to you before so obviously I was talking about the other LW in the ask polly letter. You know, ‘that’ LW. Literally everything I said was a direct reference to that letter. You can get your feathers ruffled on her behalf if you like but the smarter course of action would be to use her as a cautionary tale.