Although breastfeeding does make it harder for the one with the boobs to leave, otherwise I think its just as hard regardless of which parent leaves. In fact, my saying its hard when someone leaves is entirely based on my experience having to do single parent ops while my husband is gone for a couple days. I did not enjoy it… actually my husband is much better at being solo parent than I am.
Hi Everyone! Thank you for all of your responses. I think that I know, in my heart, that the new position isn’t something that is feasible for me at this time. My husband already travels (his current consulting gig is in Chicago 4 days per week), and while we are hoping that his next job will be remote, we’re not sure what will be available when the time comes for him to find and accept a new contract. The good news is that we do have a very large support system here of family that would be able to help out when needed. I’m just not sure if I can handle a new position – starting over from scratch and having to prove myself again.
I think my best bet is to use this new opportunity as a way to push my current employer to increase my salary closer to the market rate. Currently, I have a fair amount of travel in my position, including trips to Asia 2-3 times per year, but I know that here, I will be able to opt out without consequence if needed because of the time I’ve already put in.
I tend to get on a crazy soapbox any time something like this comes up, because I don’t think that men have to deal with the same thoughts that women do when it comes to being in the workplace and having a family. But, I guess that’s the way it goes.