- April 20, 2017 at 1:23 pm #682859
I did that to a certain extent at my current company (believed what they said about “we are family” and that they had my best interests at heart) and invested wayyy too much of myself emotionally as well as my time and energy. Then last year, I was falsely accused of something I didn’t do and taken to task for it, while in the middle of being underpaid and doing the job of 2 people for the past year. In that time I’ve watched very loyal and well-producing people be out of a job in the blink of an eye because the company went in a different business strategy direction than their position allowed.
We’re not family. It’s business. And I agree: NEVER tell a manager or a job that you’re looking.April 20, 2017 at 1:34 pm #682861
Could you resign your lease next winter? So, take the job now, and then decide at six months in that position if you like it enough to stay longer, or if you still want to leave in Spring of 2018.
It is unfortunate I guess, if you have to decide now, but I’d still take it, if it were me.April 20, 2017 at 2:19 pm #682869
Take the job! For reasons others have said — it’s just business, and you gotta look out for number one! — and also because I feel like you just never know what’s going to happen, right? Maybe you want to leave in a year but will love the job and change your mind. Maybe you’ll hate it so much you leave in six months. Maybe you’ll want to leave in a year but realize, like I did, that it’s actually quite difficult to truly plan when your next opportunity will actually be available to you. I knew my last job was a big mistake soon after starting, and left a few weeks ago — at about 11 months. I never, ever thought I’d leave a job so quickly, but my supervisor was a jerk and the company’s MO was to work everyone to the point of burnout. I tried to time my job search so that I’d be able to leave at or soon after the year mark. The company I’m at now moved relatively quickly with the hiring process. Another company I interviewed with, where I ultimately withdrew from the interview process, took five months from the point of application to the point where I was a finalist. Point being, I didn’t have full control over when I got an offer I wanted to accept.
I know you mentioned you have a lease to deal with — is month-to-month an option if you’ve been leasing with the same company for awhile? That would give you the flexibility you’d need to leave whenever, I imagine.
Also, I agree that the general rule of thumb is to NEVER tell your employers when you’re looking. But, Ask A Manager actually writes that if it’s common where you work or in your field, it’s not a bad idea. (She herself is a manager who encourages employees to let her know when they’re thinking about moving on.) I don’t know that I’d ever feel comfortable enough to do so, but if it’s common in your field/workplace, I’d at least consider it. I actually think it’d be great for everyone involved if that much candor was the norm.April 20, 2017 at 2:28 pm #682872
My lease is up next in May 2018 (I had to re-sign in March). I could do a six-month lease at that time if I was unsure about how much time to stay. I’ve heard from the leasing manager that month-to-month is fairly expensive, but they also do month-extensions or short leases like 3 months, if I was searching and worried about not finding something before I had to move out.
It’s a good point that I don’t know what will happen. I mean, I came into this job unsure if I could make it a year, and I have been planning on 3 years now, so circumstances do change!April 20, 2017 at 3:30 pm #682881
I tried to work with my complex of 5 years on breaking a lease – nope. Looking out for #1. Their company.April 20, 2017 at 4:09 pm #682886
When I moved states a couple years ago, I was prepared to shell out the money to break my lease. I spoke with my landlord and he agreed to let me out of the lease. It was an unexpected surprise. But I think when a physical move is required for career purposes, it may be easiest to plan like you’ll have to break the lease.
@thehizzy – Isn’t there anything in your agreement about breaking the lease?April 20, 2017 at 4:32 pm #682889
@copa I had 2 options on breaking it so I’ve already submitted it. A house purchase happened about two months earlier than expected. It’s a pretty competitive market here and I hit a killer deal. So I’m paying a couple thousand to break my lease. I looked and it’s already listed for rent and they’ve upped the rent by like $300.April 20, 2017 at 4:33 pm #682891
@Copa I had better luck when I was moving across country and my landlord lived down the road from an old friend. I now rent from a giant company.April 20, 2017 at 5:08 pm #682896
It would definitely be good to check! But my apartment complex was bought out by a corporation shortly before I moved there, so I have a feeling they aren’t too lenient. They accidentally asked me for extra rent money in my first month, I overpaid (rent, deposit and stuff were all wrapped up together), and it took 6 months to clear it up, simply because all transactions had to go through corporate. The people in the office here were just as frustrated as I was. But I relentlessly sought that $13 like it was gold. For whatever reason, they gave me an extra $5.
My old landlord, who was just a random guy renting homes, let us move out early with just an extra month’s rent because he was able to find a new tenant. Benefit of having a individual and not a company!April 26, 2017 at 10:34 am #683793
What Would Beyonce Do?
It’s not personal it’s business. You need to create and fight for the life that you want. Stop being so passive, put on some big girl pants, and have some difficult decisions to get the life that you want. People quit, everyone is replaceable. If this new job is the next step for you, then make it happen!
I can’t tell if you just want to play it safe, or if you really want the job. Either way, WWBD? She would Slay. So go Slay.April 26, 2017 at 1:14 pm #683808
I find it really unhelpful how insistent people are that you should NEVER EVER tell a boss you’re looking for a new job. It’s not only common in my field to do so, it’s how people (including me) get a sizable percentage of their new jobs, since bosses rely a lot on recommendations from applicants’ previous bosses. What’s more, it’s a small enough industry that if you’re applying to another company, it’s not unlikely that word will get out once you show your face in the other building for an interview.April 26, 2017 at 2:40 pm #683821
“Staying in the job for just a year is perfectly fine, especially since your employer has high turnover and it sounds like you’d be one of the stable ones. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER tell your employer you are looking. NEVER tell them you will only commit to the job for just a year.”
I just want to weigh in and say that Ron has understated this point. Telling your bosses anything along these lines is a catastrophically bad idea.
Do you think the person whose job you’d be filling stressed out about whether it was fair to take the job if he didn’t know if he’d be staying. Take the job if you want to do the job.