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    Sarah

    I have a medically fragile baby.

    We live in apartments on the ground floor. Our neighbors smoke outside their front door, on their doorstep…which is right next to our living room window. That means we get secondhand smoke right into our apartment/living room. The baby spends most of her day in the living room. We do keep the window open quite a bit (no a/c and it is SO hot) and I immediately close it if I smell smoke.

    Can we ask them not to smoke on their front step? Or at least give us a text or something so we can move the baby into one of our two bedrooms? Any tips on how to approach this?

    Thanks.

    #690192 Reply
    FireStar
    Firestar

    Yes you can ask. Ask with a plate of brownies. But if that is your living situation then move. That second hand smoke lingers and is a danger to any baby much less one that needs extra care.

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    Essie
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    What are the smoking rules for your apartments? Are they allowed to be smoking that close to the building? If not, take this up with the rental office.

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    FireStar
    Firestar

    Also what are the laws where you live? My jurisdiction doesn’t allow smoking within 10 feet of a doorway

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    Dalben

    Is there a reason it’s not practical to get an air conditioner and not leave your window open? I assume there actually is a reason, but it’s not related int your post and it seems like the obvious step.

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    Kate
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    Probably because it costs a bunch of money, whereas just asking them not to smoke is free. Chilled air might not be great for the baby either. I think it’s fine to ask. If it’s a bigger building with a management company I’d go through them, otherwise I’d ask nicely first and if they don’t stop, ask the landlord.

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    RedRoverRedRover

    I’d check out bylaws and your building’s rules first, and if it’s not allowed have building mgmt deal with it. If it’s allowed then you can ask yourself, and if they say no you might need to consider moving.

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    Sarah

    We looked into getting an air conditioner. Yes, it is super-expensive, but the bigger thing is that we could not find one that fit with our window. We are also limited in a/c options, given that we are renting and do not own the place.

    I’ll find out the building’s smoking rules.

    Our city has smoking rules that no one enforces (not even the police).

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    ele4phant

    What about a portable air conditioner? They work well enough to get rooms bearable, and are only a couple hundred bucks. But they are huge…

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    Sarah

    Don’t those need to have an outlet outside to blow off air? We have those robber bars on our windows so the ones we looked at didn’t fit because of the bars. (Also, that would still require the window to be open.)

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    Dalben

    I had a portable air conditioner for a while. The robber bars aren’t a problem, because the connection to the outside is just a hose with a sliding plastic rectangle to fill out the rest of the window. You’d probably want to seal the rest of the window off with some foam and ductape (or however you prefer to manage it) but it’s not too hard to do. It is somewhat louder than an equivalent size and quality window air conditioner, but it’s not a huge deal. When I bought mine I got the cheapest one available so technically it wasn’t powerful enough for the size room it was in, but it cooled it to a perfectly livable temperature, but not really cold per se. As for affordability, that means different things to different people, but it’s probably $200-500 depending if you get the absolute cheapest special deal form amazon or walmart.com or something or get a higher quality one and of course it adds something to your electric bill. I don’t know how receptive smokers would be to being asked to move, especially since it’s their own doorstep, but at least you can say you tried what you could on your own and aren’t asking them to make a sacrifice while you do nothing. Bringing a plate of brownies like Firestar suggested couldn’t hurt either to show your not trying to be hostile.

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    Ele4phant

    Yeah I would think if you could slide your window up and down you would still be able slide the plastic seal in place – although I’ve never had a window with those sorts of bars but the bars are in front of the pane, right? And you can open up your window as much or as little as you want (and certainly enough to allow a six inch piece of plastic slide in between the frame and the bottom of the pane), right?

    Although if your window opens to the side – yeah it may not work or you may have to get creative. Although there’s always cutting a cardboard box to size, cutting a hole for the exhaust and tapping all that into place. Classy but it works.

    They are huge so if you have a small place without a lot of maneuvering room they may not work.

    But this is an example:

    https://www.allergyandair.com/edgestar-ap12000s-12000-btu-115v-portable-dual-filtration-air-conditioner-with-dehumidifier-window-mounting-kit-and-remote-contr/p3110720?source=gg-gba-pla_3110720____49564562834&CAWELAID=120307830000001368&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=14606997074&CATCI=pla-103899673025&gclid=CNnC5piRutQCFYZcfgodErEDmQ

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