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October 21, 2017 at 6:53 pm #724348
I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. We have always had a long distance relationship but since moving back home to be with him I decided I didn’t want to live there & was extremely unhappy so I ended the relationship. We had a difficult time during those 2 years & he wasn’t always nice to me or treated me the best however I feel very guilty for breaking up with him and I’m now paranoid his family don’t like me anymore.October 21, 2017 at 7:08 pm #724350
Ugh, don’t. Go have some fun!October 21, 2017 at 7:21 pm #724354
you broke up with him because you were not happy, go be happy and let his family go. also for future reference its his family they will aways like him better than his girlfriends and if they say they like you more they are lying and trying to be nice.October 21, 2017 at 7:49 pm #724373
You’re supposed to break up with boyfriends who aren’t nice and don’t treat you right. Nobody wants a boyfriend like that. You have nothing to feel guilty about, and what his family thinks of you doesn’t matter one bit.October 21, 2017 at 7:51 pm #724374
Break up’s hurt even if it was the right thing to do and you did the breaking up. It’s an emotional change that rips up the routines and life that you’ve known. It takes time and effort to get through it. Dear Dana did a great piece on it. Wallow for a bit, grieve and slowly move onwards. As for his family, they’re going to comfort their own. So, let your ex deal with them and you go spend time with your friends and family.October 21, 2017 at 8:51 pm #724392
Feeling guilty is only appropriate if you did something wrong. If you robbed a bank, or did insider stock trading, then you would have reason to feel guilty. In fact, I’d insist on it. In this case you did nothing wrong. Just because you think he or his family might be unhappy about the breakup doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. Your first obligation is to yourself. No point in making a sacrifice out of yourself to make yourself be unhappy and have the “privilege” of getting treated like crap – that would be insane to keep doing. You did the sensible thing. Don’t spoil it for yourself by allowing yourself to feel guilty!