We’ve been dating for a couple months now. Sex was great the first couple of times but lately whenever we try to have sex he’s unable to contain himself. Before he even slides into the holy grain he cums. We do a lot of foreplay before sex but by the time we are about to get it on it’s game over. I’ve been sexually frustrated for the past month and I don’t know what to do.
If you google resources for premature ejaculation there are some resources out there. Pelvic wall* exercises will strengthen the muscles that prevent ejaculation.
*I know that everyone here has been anxious for me to talk about my pelvic wall so I’m pleased to finally accommodate them.
You need to be able to discuss these things with your boyfriend, which is a separate issue. To the extent that vaginal intercourse isn’t getting the job done for you, you guys can incorporate other types of activities to address your needs.
It sounds like you haven’t discussed this with him. You have to. I know it’s not easy, but if you plan on having a long term relationship with anyone, let alone marriage, sexual issues are gonna happen, and if you can’t talk about them…well, there’s not a lot of hope for the survival of your relationship.
Work on it together. Change things up. Try a different kind of foreplay, maybe.