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    Spanishgirl

    Ola/hi/G’day

    I came back from work today feeling really sad and upset. I started to cry as my co workers again tried to belittle me and make me feel bad. What happened? A service user was having a leaving party and only asked for cakes, chocolates and fizz drinks. I brought it all and some colleagues and the manager all said no I should of brought hot food as well. I told them this service user did not want it and I did what they asked of me. They all laughed and huffed and huffed. I was made to feel stupid. I went home feeling angry and bad.

    I also feel like they could be talking about me right now as they stayed behind to do longer shift. I am feeling sick, tired and bad.

    How can I move on from this, I feel so paranoid and sad.

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    JD

    You aren’t going to like this but based on a few of your posts you do come across really paranoid. I am betting a lot of this is in your head. None of that sounds like they were laughing at you.

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    Kate
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    This is like the 8th letter in a few months out of the UK where someone feels their co-workers are laughing and talking about them. Why is this a thing?? And only in the UK? They’re not all the same person either, though it could be that some of them are. Does anyone have any insight?

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    Heatherly
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    We’re a rather messed up country at the moment, what with Brexit & Austerity under the Tories (our Republicans). Life is tough & about to get tougher. Also no European/non native person living here will feel that welcome or sure about life here. If I had a time machine & the ability to stop Rupurt Murdoch etc from printing lies…

    But is the USA any better?

    @Spanishgirl, just keep your head down, do your job and ignore all that isn’t work related. I hope you get that other job.

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    Kate
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    Yeah, that makes sense. These letters are only coming from the UK, and I do think they’re mainly from people who came there from other countries. I don’t think the workplace is quite the same in the US. Not that people aren’t assholes, but they are really really careful about being politically correct at work and not violating HR policies.

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    Spanishgirl

    Heatherly- thank you. I try to keep my head down bit people continue to be mean and pick on me. Yes I will just try to work hard.

    Everyone else- I think people here are more willing to say things about you behind your back. No matter who you are. People tend to talk about others to make themselves feel better. It’s hard when you are on the receiving end. I try to ignore it but the more hate I receive the more paranoid I become. I never use to be like this.

    Thanks anyway.

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    Kate
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    I’m sorry it’s like that, and you guys have to hear people openly talking shit about you in the workplace. That’s wrong. Try to focus your emotional energy on life outside of work, and keep telling yourself it’s just a job. Fuck those people.

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    Spanishgirl

    Yep sister. If only more women in UK were like you, honest and kind.

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    Spanishgirl

    Btw kate you seem like a really good advisor. What is your profession because you would be great psychologist or counsellor

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    Kate
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    Haha, thanks. Wendy gives the advice, I am here to monitor for trolls and creeps. But I’m old and I’ve seen some shit. I am in a client service / sales role, so there’s some psychology in that I guess. And we basically give the client info to tell them what to do.

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    Kate
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    I used to be really invested in my career and feel like my self-worth came from how I did my job. But I’ve taken a huge step back from that, and work means way less than it used to. It really is just a job and a paycheck. You should look for ways to connect with nice people outside of work like with volunteering or sports or hobby groups. Work truly doesn’t matter as much as you feel it does.

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    Essie
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    Kate is right. I had a wise manager once who told me “Your job isn’t your life. It’s what you do to pay for the important things in your life.” I never forgot that.

    Some workplaces have a respectful, easygoing, supportive culture. Some have a rougher, ruder, cutthroat culture. It sounds like your workplace may not be a good fit for your personality, and if it’s really making you miserable, it’s worth it to look for a different job. Look at sites like Glassdoor to learn about the atmosphere and culture at a company before you apply, or talk to people who work there.

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