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- December 21, 2016 at 4:30 pm #665332
This part is immature and nasty:
he then blocked me and got his sister to txt me about it…. im not sure if i should have a termination or go ahead as its a very big decision… i just feel instead of him being supportive hes basically told me to get rid…
But the rest of it is ok, he’s saying he doesn’t want kids, which is fair, and his asking how you’d cope on your own is valid. If you were still together, you’d be with a guy who doesn’t want kids, doesn’t want to be with you, but maybe wouldn’t be sure how to tell you that, and then it might be too late to make a clear decision. At least now you have total clarity.December 21, 2016 at 4:42 pm #665333
Yeah that makes sense…. him saying he never wanted kids i understand but he needs to accept accidents happen…and as for him not wanting to be with me hes told me this before and then got back together… he even said before i was pregnant that he thought about giving things another try but he doesnt know if it would work or what would change…. i dont think its fair for him to say all that… no wonder my heads a mess…. i think its maybe best for me if i terminate the pregnancy… just for my sake not because he is telling me too.December 21, 2016 at 4:44 pm #665335
Probably, yes. Please don’t make your decision thinking he may change his mind about kids and making it work with you. I don’t think the two of you COULD make it work.December 21, 2016 at 4:44 pm #665336
Please don’t terminate just because you want to get back together with him.
I have a bad feeling that you are hoping that by terminating, he will agree to give things another shot with you.
You should be with someone who is with you through thick and thin.December 21, 2016 at 4:45 pm #665337
Kate, you read my mind!December 21, 2016 at 5:02 pm #665342
Im so confused…. i wouldnt terminate just to get him back… i would only terminate if i think its best for me…. the worrying thing is he is desperatly trying to get me to terminate as when i say to him i might think about going ahead he is going mad at me then blocking me. I think he will only come to the scan with me if im going to terminate.December 21, 2016 at 5:33 pm #665343
I actually meant don’t KEEP the baby because you think he may change his mind. But either way, don’t base anything on what you imagine he might do. Decide based on your life and your needs.December 21, 2016 at 5:48 pm #665344
Find someone else to go to the scan with. This is not the person to support you during this very difficult time.December 21, 2016 at 5:51 pm #665346
Yeah that makes sense and thats what id be doing.. basing it on my needs and how i would cope.. .i just dont understand why he is supporting abortion but wont talk to me when o say i might decide to keep it… i made it clear i wasnt wanting us back together… i think hes more angry that he would have to pay financially…December 21, 2016 at 5:53 pm #665347
I was going to go with my friend to the scan but at first he asked if he could go so i said yes but now when i say i might keep the baby he blocks me and goes immature telling me im choping and changing the goal posts.December 21, 2016 at 5:53 pm #665348
He’s saying he wants an abortion because he doesn’t want a kid.December 21, 2016 at 5:53 pm #665349
It’s pretty simple, he doesn’t want a kid!