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    Pink123
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    I get that but what im saying is even if i go through with this ive told him we dont have to be together… so i dont understand why hes blocking me and wont talk… its my body my choice im not saying for us to be a family

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    RedRoverRedRover

    Make your decision based on the assumption that you and he are not going to be together, and that he won’t want anything to do with the baby, because that’s the most likely outcome.

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    Kate
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    Pink, he does. Not. Want. A. Child.

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    snoopy128

    Who cares if he is blocking you and won’t talk? Neither of those thing are important now.
    1. You two are not together and will not get back together
    2. He does not want a baby and does not want to talk to you about said embryo in your womb.
    3. You need to make your decisions without him. Please reach out to other important people in your life for support. Pretend this guy doesn’t exist. He factors no where in to your decision (beyond the fact that he will be of no help).

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    Stonegypsy
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    I will agree with everyone here – think about which choice is healthiest for you, alone. You should not factor him into the decision at all

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    Essie
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    I’m going to be blunt here, and I’m sorry.

    He’s blocking you because he doesn’t want this baby. He does not want to have a baby with you, co-parent with you, or be with you at all. He broke up with you. It doesn’t matter what he said a month ago, or a week ago, or how many times he said he loved you, or how many times he said he’d support you if you got pregnant. It doesn’t matter what you thought he’d want. It. Does. Not. Matter. There is no way you can twist this or spin it to get him back into your life. It is over with him.

    You have options to consider. You can terminate the pregnancy and continue on with your life, without him. You can put the baby up for adoption and continue on with your life, without him. Or, you can raise the baby on your own, without him.

    But if you’re going to keep the baby, do it 100% because you want to raise the child. If you start thinking that maybe he’ll come back if you keep the baby, you’re going down the wrong path. The baby is not going to bring you back together. Oh, you might pile on the guilt and nag him into coming around, for a while, but it won’t make him love you again.

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    Ange

    Yeah it’s pretty obvious he’ll talk to you about abortion because that’s what he wants and when you talk about keeping it he blocks you because as is said above he does. Not. Want. A. Kid. And he does not want to encourage you into thinking keeping it will bring him back.

    So you have your answer, he won’t be the guy he said he was going to be for you. He talked a big game but when the going got tough he bailed and unfortunately mate he’s setting the scene for a lot more of that if you go ahead with the pregnancy. So yes, make your decision as if he’s not a part of it, it would be the smartest and most practical way.

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    Anonymousse

    He’s blocking you because you were not getting the point he is telling you. He is out of the picture. Do not have (t)his baby.

    Don’t text with third parties about your drama.

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    Anonymousse

    He’s blocking you because you were not getting the point he is telling you. He is out of the picture. Do not have (t)his baby.

    Don’t text with third parties about your drama.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
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    The world has enough unwanted babies. Unless you have a strong desire to be a single parent (who never hears from the bio dad), please don’t have this baby.

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    bittergaymark
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    Yeah. This is a no brainer. Exercise your right to terminate the pregnancy and consider this a bullet dodged.

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    Pink123
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    He never said he didnt love me he still says he loves me his feelings didnt change its over because of it not working….i wouldnt keep the baby to get him back.. i know its over… im just thinking whats best for me and i think termination is prob best for me. I didnt involve a third party he did.

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