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- December 22, 2016 at 9:19 am #665444
It’s quite clear that no matter how fucking clear the dumper is — many a dumpee simply won’t ever get it somehow.December 22, 2016 at 9:37 am #665447
Pink, he still loves you. It’s clear. That’s why he doesn’t want to lose you from his life.
But! This guy has realized that love is not enough. It’s just not. There has to be a level of compatibility that you two obviously don’t have if you fight all the time. You love him, he loves you, but it can’t work. You’re simply not a match, no matter how much you love each other. Try to accept that, because you’re spinning yourself in circles and not letting go. You’re hanging onto the fact that he loves you as if it changes anything. It doesn’t, and it can’t. The sooner you realize that and move on, the happier you’ll be.December 22, 2016 at 9:51 am #665449
Thanks redrover your message makes a lot of sense instead of people just having a go… people dont need yo comment if they are sick of me going on… but yeah redrover your exactly right..December 22, 2016 at 10:23 am #665455
People can love you and not want to be in a relationship, not want to talk to you, not even like you very much. “Love” is a very flexible term.
People can also lie and say they love you to make you feel better after a breakup, and they can love the way things used to be between you, before they really got to know you. They can love the person they thought you were, and found out that you weren’t.
It sounds to me like you’re clinging to the belief that he still loves you because you want to get back together with him. Stop clinging as if this is some tragic romance out of a fairy tale. He is not the only man on the planet, and your relationship with him sucked. The two of you did not work as a couple, and no amount of dreaming and hoping is going to change that.
Move on and find a man you’re actually compatible with. He’s out there, while you’re wasting time with Mr. Wrong.December 23, 2016 at 11:41 am #665638
Thanks for everyones comments and yes ive taken them all on board. Ive got a lot to think about…i know he doesnt want kids and thats fair enough… when his sister txt me she said to me when he says he wants no part he means he doesnt want a relationship with anyone but whatever u do decide he WILL be a part of … yet when ive said to him i might keep the baby he blocks me… her words dont match hos actions…. yes i know he doesnt want kids but shes saying whatever i decide he will be a part of so why block me when i say i might go ahead…. any yes kate i have ordered its called a break up because its broken it comes today.December 23, 2016 at 11:47 am #665644
A former fling of mine and I “love” each other. Hell, we just spent a long weekend together in Joshua Tree! But its all very platonic now — and neither of us is secretly pining away for each other…December 23, 2016 at 11:52 am #665648
Pink, why have this child? Because all of your other posts were very clear about how messed up your and his relationship was and both of you have major maturity issues. You both live with parents, right? And fought all the time?
Think really hard about why you want a child. Why do you want a child specifically right now? Are you financially able to care for a child?December 23, 2016 at 11:54 am #665649
Stop texting his sister about this bullshit. It’s none of her business and she’s giving you false hope.December 23, 2016 at 12:05 pm #665657
I DIDNT TXT HIS SISTER IF YOU READ THE POSTS HE BLOCKED ME AND RAN TO HIS SISTER AND GOT HER TO TXT ME…. AND NO HE LIVES WITH HIS PARENTS AT 31. I HAVE MY OWN PLACEDecember 23, 2016 at 12:07 pm #665659
I never wanted his sister involved i was trying to be an adult and discuss all this with him but he blocked me and then got his sister yo txt me and act as a third party. This is what i mean. Its immature.December 23, 2016 at 12:26 pm #665670
So do you believe his words when he says he loves you or do you believe his actions that shows he does not really love you ?December 23, 2016 at 12:32 pm #665674
What actions the blocking me?…