- January 10, 2017 at 1:11 pm #668297
That’s absolutely true, and then when it ends like it did, it can make you think, when you find a guy you don’t argue and have drama with, that he’s the one.January 10, 2017 at 4:12 pm #668318
Thanks everyone for your thoughtful replies and relevant experience. It mostly is an issue of communication for sure. We do try to be honest and open most of the time but I do know he struggles to address these issues in particular. Maybe it will take revisiting that in a different light/frame, as suggested. I did think he was my person, but his doubt in himself trickling into doubt in us has created this new uncertainty for me. I know this all happened early in, but I also know it’s coinciding with particular issues he had financially.
He’s since struggled with depressive thoughts while trying to get things back on track, and unfortunately I don’t have much experience with helping others through that issue- wouldn’t hurt to look into that also.
Thanks again for the needed reflection.January 10, 2017 at 4:12 pm #668319
Sometimes, when you come out of a bad relationship where there’s been a lot of fighting, you’re very drawn to guys who are just….nice to you. Who make you feel good about yourself. It’s the kindness and the calm you’re attracted to, not necessarily the person.
I wonder if that’s part of what’s gone wrong here.