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Dear Wendy

What is going on around here??

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    Leslie Joan

    And Wendy, I’m so sorry about your grandma. It’s never fun to be on the receiving end of anybody’s rant. Even less so when it comes at a time when you have personal tragedies going on.

    Doubly disturbing that anyone would think that you are only here to meet his specific needs and would welcome and respond well to a rant at any point in time. Yeesh. Seriously, that is productive and effective in the real world, like, never. That’s the sort of thing you write out, if you must – and then sit on or burn it. What did you expect?

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    dinoceros
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    This just encapsulates one of the things that’s wrong with our society. The entitlement of going on a rant about the things you don’t like about a service/product as though it’s supposed to change just because you don’t like it. Send a polite email with your suggestions or concerns. Decide you don’t like the site and stop visiting. Either of those are fine responses.

    This is the equivalent of walking into a restaurant’s kitchen and yelling at the chef about why they won’t make their marinara sauce the way you like and why they don’t put the number of garlic cloves in that you prefer. Or going to a yoga class and screaming at the instructor that you don’t like the positions they choose and that you think all the people who attend the class are terrible, awful people. I personally don’t have a lot of time in my day, so I don’t spend time on things I hate. You seem to hate this site, so why not find a site you like?

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    Kate B.
    Kate B.

    I don’t know how you can be surprised at the reaction you’re getting. What did you think it would be? Wendy would say, “Gosh, I’m sorry you don’t like the content on my site, let me fix that right away!” What exactly were you hoping to achieve? Learn to offer constructive criticism, in a polite, mature way, if you have legitimate issues. And while you’re at it, learn some manners. You don’t just go off on someone. If you do, you get exactly what you deserve.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
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    @dinoceros – You’re almost right about the metaphor of this being like “walking into a restaurant’s kitchen and yelling at the chef about why they won’t make their marinara sauce the way you like,” but the restaurant would have to be free — totally free — for the customer, and run by one person who is doing all the cooking, waiting tables, marketing, book-keeping, dish-washing, etc. almost entirely herself. THAT is the scenario we’re talking about. And the customer is this dipshit yelling about how the marinara sauce that he’s been eating for fucking free for over six years doesn’t taste the same anymore and he doesn’t like the other customers and, jeez, can you do something about the decor already, because “I don’t like it.” The level of entitlement here is off the fucking charts.

    And thank you to everyone for your comments. Clearly, this one struck a nerve with me. I get emails like this sometimes, but they’re easy to just delete and ignore. When a rant is made this way, publicly, in a way that I think is meant to draw attention and publicly humiliate me, it enrages me. Like, who the fuck do you think you are, dipshit? I’ve been providing content and entertainment for you for years for free and you talk to me like this? Get off my site and get help. You’re a mental case.

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    Kate
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    My diagnosis is Attention Whoreicissm.

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    Leslie Joan

    I dunno. Is it society, or is it a collection of narcissistic or disordered individuals?

    There are always going to be people who think that the world revolves around them. These people are narcissists, and they don’t give a material shit about anything that anyone else is going through. And, when they pick certain moments to throw a snit, they may get a particularly bad response. Are they going to focus on their own role in why things blew up on them? Nope, because that’s not how narcissists roll.

    I think we notice the narcissists more because they have a way of poking at tender spots, and basically using the world as their litter box because they are unhappy. And then the narcissists get to feel sorry for themselves because what they imagine is a legitimate beef has been ignored.

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    Rangerchic
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    Wow. I too have been reading since the days of the Frisky and miss some of the other regular commentators but that’s life. Maybe they still read and don’t comment as much – maybe life just got in the way. I usually read daily (except for weekends as I’m not on the computer on weekends) but I too have had weeks where I was on vacation or sick or whatever and haven’t checked the site. Geez louise no one forces you to read it if you don’t like it.

    Anyway, Wendy I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. I hope you are able to see her soon. And your site, especially for being free, is great!

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    Ale

    Wow Wendy, those are sad news. I’m sorry and I hope you get to see her soon.

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    Kate
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    I hope you get to see your grandmother, Wendy. I’m sorry.

    This idiot’s comment showcases his idiocy and mental health problems and is no reflection on you.

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    Loo

    I’ve been reading since The Frisky and this is literally my favorite website. I visit every single day and regularly bring up columns to friends during real life conversations. Sorry some people suck, Wendy.

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    LisforLeslie

    Yeah Wendy – sorry about your grandma. If you’re up for it (perhaps not in this thread), share your funniest Grandma story with us.

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    Miss MJ

    Another reader since The Frisky days. Try to visit daily. Also, no technical issues from either my laptop or my phone. So, yeah.

    Sorry to hear about your grandma, Wendy. Sending good thoughts your way.

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