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    Jessica

    Hello all,

    I just wanted to say to those on here giving advice, be very careful how you are responding to people’s requests for help.

    I wrote a question a week ago about having a rough time with my new job. I just went and checked to see if there were any additional advice givers and I came to find the main lady herself, Wendy post an article she found where a young woman was upset about people at her job not liking her. After Wendy’s post there were multiple responses bashing the young woman, some saying they wanted to slap her and some even saying they hate her. Having extreme judgement like that on a advice board for people in pain is pretty pitiful. If you want to talk like that take it somewhere else. Needless to say I won’t be posting for help on here again.

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    Kate
    Keymaster

    People were super nice to you. They took a very sympathetic tone throughout your most recent post and, I think, your other one. You got butt-hurt about a few people’s reaction to some other letter writer’s letter. But people took the time to be very kind to you.

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    Leslie Joan

    Jessica, did you actually read the linked article and the response that prompted the astounded and harsh remarks? If you did, you might think differently about the dramatic reactions that article received. I’m guessing that you didn’t, and that you are feeling hurt because you suspect there might be a reaction to your post, when in fact it was not yours at all.

    People were very kind and supportive here to you and on your earlier post, as well you deserved.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
    Keymaster

    You’re so vain you probably think this comment is about you, don’t you?

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    dinoceros
    Member

    Like Kate said, people were very kind to you. I think it’s a really odd way to respond to people who took the time to read and answer your question. No one is going to make you keep posting here, but I don’t think it’s really your place to tell people to get off the site.

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    Janelle

    Agreed. You received nice responses and clearly didn’t understand the other article or that she was a troll who posted numerous times with many lies. Also I think only Wendy should be telling us what type of advice to give or not give, not you. You can however buy a domain and start your own advice site. Always an option.

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    Dear Wendy
    Dear Wendy
    Keymaster

    The gall to come to someone else’s site as a newbie and tell longtime regulars to take their comments elsewhere.

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    Leslie Joan

    By the way, I was the slappy one. But it was a figure of speech, and written lightheartedly at that. A person can look to put the most jaundiced possible interpretation of a set of words, or they can look for context to see if something lighter is meant.

    It does not serve a person well in life to look to find reasons to be critical of those who’ve helped or tried to help, when the critical remarks were not about you.

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    Jessica

    Hi all, I just want to start this out by apologizing. I totally didn’t read the entire article and only read a couple of paragraphs. Well I just read the whole thing and now see why you all were saying what you were saying. Can’t believe I made a assumption. I really apologize to everyone and sincerely appreciate the help I’ve received on here.

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    Howdywiley

    Okay then. See you next Tuesday.

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    FireStar
    Firestar

    Did you… Did you really just call people out on a letter… that had nothing to do with you… that you didn’t even read in full?

    Now I feel slappy.

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    Leslie Joan

    Well, she had the good grace to call herself out and apologize sincerely. It’s not something that everyone would do, and I give her a lot of credit for it.

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