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    Kate

    Yeah, I would use someone’s half & half, tbh, or a condiment, but to actually take their snack or meal, or OPEN something??? Taking candy out of a drawer is bullshit too if it’s not your bff.

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    ktfran
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    I’ll admit, I think I’ve “borrowed” salad dressing a couple of times. But I felt super weird and now keep some olive oil and vinegar in my desk drawer.

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    Copa
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    Wow! @ktfran That’s pretty bad if someone is going through boxes in the fridge to find goodies. Adults shouldn’t need reminders not to take things that aren’t theirs! In any case, I don’t *want* someone else’s lunch — I want the lunch I packed for myself and know I’ll like (or the lunch I buy for myself and know I’ll like). I think using condiments, salad dressings, or creamers are a little bit different, assuming you’re not using someone else’s stuff consistently cause you’re too lazy or cheap to buy your own, but I’ve admittedly used half & half that didn’t belong to me a couple times and felt weird about it notwithstanding.

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    There’s a special place in Hell for people who eat other people’s lunch.

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    Lauretta Liley

    Yes you should be Kate. You are very understanding and you certainly know what you are talking about

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    Lauretta Liley

    Lol at cleopatra! Yes I am in a toxic work place. My own boss is scared of both ladies so sticks up for them most of the time.
    I do really enjoy where I work and it can get me to some really great places however Kate, do you think I should just stick it out or try and find a new job?

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    Kate
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    Well, I think you could give it a shot and see how sticking it out goes. What do you really like about it? If you can repair your relationship with the older lady, it might make the bullying stop, though you would always need to watch your back with the younger one. Let us know how it goes with the apology. If it doesn’t get better and you’re hating life, you’d probably want to move on. Are you looking to get promoted or anything anytime soon?

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    Lauretta Liley

    The thing I really like about it is it is something I relate too, I have only been in the position for 6 months and I am striving to learn more. It is a showroom consultant role. Being the newest member there makes it hard as now that this has happened, my manager brings up everything I have done wrong since being in the showroom (everyone makes mistakes) I have made some good sales though which I continue to point out. Yes I agree, my main focus is to repair my relationship with my manager, this will take some time though as she is a very firm what I say goes type of lady. Besides, I live in a small town so it would be quite hard to find another Monday to Friday 8-5 job that I enjoy doing.
    With me only being in the business a short time, no promotion as yet. Myself (age 32) and the 19 year old do not get along and she knows this which is why she chooses to make my life a living hell

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    Kate
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    Yeah, give it a few months to see if things turn around. If your sales are good, that may shut people up, or your manager will start shutting them up if your numbers are good.

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    Flowerfly

    Lauretta trust me I’m in the same position as you and I started new job as well. I’m 6 months in and my colleagues are horrendous and vile. But I’m sticking around for few months then leaving as soon as possible. Life is too short and precious to be around bad and negative people. I have a senior colleague who talks about me to manager in front of me.

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    Flowerfly

    All I can do is keep calm and be patient, work hard and find a JOB soon to get the hell out of that place. I hope my new job is better and people are nicer. I hope the same outcome for you laureate. In the meantime girl, Keep calm and carry on. I live in London and there are many people with bad attitude but I try to not let them get to me. Just Rise Girl.

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    Flowerfly

    Sorry for the typo error

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