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Work clothes when you hate pants and button ups?

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    Kate

    Those are a good example of the *style* of dress that’s flattering and work appropriate, though I like when I find them in a print or a pretty color. A pencil skirt with a feminine blouse tucked in is nice too.

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    Janelle

    I like both of those and luckily have something quite similar. Sadly the white one I have doesn’t fit the chest anymore without threatening to strangle the girls.

    Thanks Kate. I think I’ll stock up on more dresses like these since I do like them.

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    Kate
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    And I know these clothes are kinda basic, but it’s funny, when I have an outfit like that on, I get a lot of compliments and looks from total strangers. I recommend a simple pair of pointy toe pumps (not super high heels) plus a pair of cute white sneakers, because those kinds of dresses look really good with both, and the sneakers are perfect for running around the airport and whatever. You can switch between the different shoes easily and always be cute and comfortable.

    I don’t know if you do jackets, but I would say invest in a couple of those too. Think like a Chanel-style little tweed one if you don’t like blazers.

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    I don’t know why you feel you’ve exhausted all options because you don’t like pants with button downs, or what kind of industry you are working in that skirts/dresses need to fall below the knee. (I work in and around the law/lawyers, which is still fairly stodgy — like, I was reprimanded by a judge in law school for wearing a pant suit instead of a skirt suit because women “should be in skirts” — and I’ve never once gotten in trouble for my attire as a working professional.) There are tops that aren’t button downs that look nice with cardigans or blazers whether you’re wearing pants or a skirt.

    Here is a roundup of some workplace fashion blogs: https://www.forbes.com/2010/10/29/fashion-blogs-professional-women-forbes-woman-style-working-wardrobe.html I’m sure there are many, many more out there!

    Pinterest is another good resource for how to style things so they don’t look bad or dated.

    At the end of the day, though, I think you’ll need to suck it up and sometimes wear things you don’t like (pants) if it means dressing the part. I work in a fairly casual environment, but do have to look more polished about once per week. I don’t love business attire — it’s not as comfortable — but I suck it up and deal with it.

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    Janelle

    I dress very fashionably all of the time but I have taken such crap over my bust and legs. It’s honestly exhausting. My last boss had sometime to say every day. “Your hair looks better parted on the side, that shade of lipstick is too dark, your heels are too high, your skirt is too short, that top is too tight, that one is too lose you look like a boy, your hair is better this color, you have a pimple. Why are you wearing tights, those are interesting boots”! It’s maddening!!! All legal and Hr issues aside I have been torn down for so long. It was every single day. It was why I left. Hence me moving away from that. I know WHAT i should wear but I am starting a new job and I guess just terrified of hearing this crap again. I’m being paranoid because I feel like everything I put on I will be torn apart for.

    Oh and I will always wear my 120mm CLBs so they can suck it on that one!!!

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    Your old boss sounds like an ass. If you are wearing inappropriate clothing, then yeah, I do think it’s within the realm of normal to be pulled aside and spoken to, but if your boss is critiquing your hair color and breakouts, that’s over-the-top. You should’ve shut that down.

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    Kate
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    Don’t wear Louboutins to work.

    I have them, I don’t think they’re right for career purposes.

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    Ultra high heels are a no go for most corporate jobs. FWIW your old boss sounds like a loon. I can’t imagine you’re going to run into that particular brand of crazy at your new gig.

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    I mean, that sounds completely batshit, but… work isn’t necessarily the place to dress very fashionably all the time. Even if it’s a casual workplace. Be on trend if you want, but not to the point that you distract with your fashion or the amount of skin you’re showing. I know it kind of sucks not to be able to fully express yourself and just wear whatever you want, but it can hold you back.

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