It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Feeling Dragged Down,” a young woman who was afraid to dump her boyfriend because he was bipolar and super depressed after a job loss and a series of bad luck incidents. “I would feel so guilty breaking up with him right now, but I’m also feeling really bogged down staying in this relationship that isn’t working.” After the jump, find out if she’s still with him and how she’s doing today.
I wrote a few weeks ago because I couldn’t figure out how to end things with a guy that was bipolar and super depressed. I did break up with him pretty shortly after that, and it was mostly painless and easy. Turns out he really didn’t have very strong feelings for me even though he was venting to me about everything that was going wrong, and he’s actually really hung up on another girl that he’s known for years. He’s moving back home this week since he can’t afford his apartment, and he’s actually kind of looking forward to it because he’ll be closer to her, and he found a job there and is going to take some classes at the community college. This is kind of weird to say since I wanted to break up with him so badly a few weeks ago, but it made me a little sad to hear how excited he is about her, and I felt like it was a little insensitive on his part. I’m just going to forget it though, and we probably aren’t going to be keeping in touch for now.
Better news is that I have a date this week!
Dude was seriously manipulating you when you were together and is manipulating you in your breakup, too. So glad you moved on and have a date lined up already. Onward and upward!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.