It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Already Holi-dazed” who was worried about her boyfriend getting overwhelmed at her family holiday get-togethers just as he had the year before when they’d first started dating. Keep reading to see how everything worked out.
This year, I took Wendy’s advice and had him take part in the festivities more. On Thanksgiving, my boyfriend and I showed up for breakfast and he cooked some of his special omelets for the family. We also brought little pilgrim hats for the dogs, which everybody loved. For a little break before dinner, I took him out and gave him some driving lessons on how to drive a stick, something he’s been wanting to learn. At one point my stepdad and stepbrother joined to learn the stick and we actually had some great bonding moments stalling all over the neighborhood. Towards Christmas, we found out that one of the few relatives my boyfriend is close with was performing in a play on the same night as my family’s Christmas Caroling, so my boyfriend and I avoided dealing with caroling this year and spent time with his family, and it was wonderful to be a part of that for the first time.
I also asked my boyfriend what traditions he wanted to start this Christmas, and he said he would like us to spend Christmas eve with just the two of us. So we watched Christmas movies, we made snowflakes, and we cooked a fancy Christmas eve dinner all for ourselves. I think because we had that time together, Christmas day went perfectly. My boyfriend bought presents for every family member and they were very personal and lovely and my family was great about getting him personal gifts that he loved as well. By the end of the night he was cracking jokes with my Grandma and was playing board games with my sister and mom. We had such a wonderful time for the holidays and my boyfriend and my family have grown much closer since. Thank you again!
Aw, warm fuzzies!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.