It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Asking Too Much?,” whose letter was featured in a shortcuts column last month when she confessed that her physical relationship with her boyfriend left a lot to be desired and whenever she brought it up with him, he’d just laugh and make a joke about it. After the jump, find out whether she’s still with the guy and if things have gotten better.
Thank you so much for your advice, and the readers, for their comments. I must admit I was originally pretty pissed with the response, because if there is one response I didn’t want to hear, it was “MOA”, much less in the “shortcuts,”lumped together with other girl’s letters. To me, moving on seemed like the obvious thing and I didn’t need to hear it, I wanted advice on how to fix it.
Last night, I finally found the guts to break up with my boyfriend. The lack of affection issue I wrote in about was not the only problem we had. Much like the recent letter “Am I being too needy?” my boyfriend never had time for me — he was always too busy working or having guys’ nights. And this was what finally pushed me over the edge. Such a long term relationship is not easy to “MOA” from, and I’m hurting badly, but at the same time I feel an immense relief knowing that I don’t have to put up with such a bad relationship. He recognized he’s bad boyfriend and that he’s got intimacy issues, and that I deserve better. It’s uphill from here 🙂
Thanks for the update and best of luck to you!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.