It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “At a Crossroads” who me a guy online who said he wanted to marry her but spent three years chasing other women and eventually moving in with one of them. “At this point,” she wrote, “I have totally given up, although I did ask were we still getting married, and he said yes. Now, I am taking him at his actions as opposed to his words. They don’t match up and more than likely I am the other woman, and I am being strung along. If I am, what do you suggest? Should I cut ties, or remain the friend and just not hang out?” After the jump, find out what she decided to do.
In response to the many questions about if I slept with him, the answer is hell naw!!!! I have to be dating seriously before I even think about that. Yes, my self-esteem is in the tanker and has been for quite some time. Yes, for a while there I did believe him but I thought it was silly to hold on to a fantasy. Another question was age; sorry for not being more clear, but I am in grad school, so book smart yes, common sense no (damn), gullible as hades, clearly.
I am not seeking therapy, but I am removing people that are super crappy to me out of my life. Yes I am a doormat, but that is changing with the removal of people like him out of my life.
Thank you to everyone who responded!!!!
Thanks for the update and best of luck to you.
P.S. Therapy is probably something worth exploring. It’s helped a great many people and it could help you, too.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.