Updates: “At a Parental Crossroads” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “At a Parental Crossroads” who wondered if she should move away from her kids to pursue her dream of becoming a geologist at a school in her hometown, or move with her military ex-husband and children to an area that doesn’t have any schools with the degree she’s interested in. After the jump, find out what she decided to do.
Thank you so much for posting my letter. I was really torn as to what I should do. I had many conversations with lots of people, and took all the advice the lovely commenters posted to heart. I have decided to move, literally, with my ex to the new state. I let my place of employment know that I would be leaving in a few months and they have decided not to keep me, so I’ll be starting over. I will be driving across the country by myself, which is exciting and new, and I will be able to visit some places I have always wanted to see. Also, I did talk to my children and they expressed how much they want me to go with them, so not only am I going with them, I’ll be living with them for a bit. When I find another job I will find our new place and my ex has been super supportive through this whole ordeal. So, again, thanks to everyone who commented, I appreciate all the advice.
I’m glad you made the decision to stay with your kids. You can always pursue dreams, but you never get time back with your kids when they’re young. Good luck with your move.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.