It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Baby on Board” who took a internship 2500 miles from home, started dating a guy she really liked, and got pregnant two months later. She said she wanted to keep the baby and wondered if she should tell the guy or keep it a secret from him since she was returning home and he would never have to find out. Keep reading to see what she decided.
Turns out, I wasn’t pregnant after all. My test was picking up a hormone level change that was indicative of tumors in my uterus. I didn’t even know that was possible, but I’m glad it is because I was able to get medical attention and everything turned out okay.
Jake was a great friend through everything, especially when I needed some help after the removal procedure. We still converse fairly regularly although I am now living back in the Midwest and he is out west. We never really had time to talk about what we would have done had I actually been pregnant, but I suspect he would have moved to wherever I got a job so we could co-parent. I am not sure if we would have stayed together, since we were never really a full-blown couple, but I do know that he is an amazing friend and my kid would have been so blessed to have him as a dad. As I said, you were all totally spot on – he needed to know – and I was being an idiot in that moment for thinking that I was shielding him from some terrible thing when a baby is so far from that.
Thanks for the advice! Getting a smack of reality from the readers helped me tell him sooner than I probably would have had I been fighting with myself in my head, which meant I found out about my tumors sooner and avoided even more painful procedures. I’ll call that a win! 🙂
Thanks for the update, and I’m so relieved you are doing well!!
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