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It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Bitter Heart” who was upset that her recent ex-boyfriend, a guy she’d been with for five years, seemed to be gloating over his new girlfriend on Facebook. After the jump, her response to the advice she got from the His Take guys.
I realized that since I did the breaking up, it’s not that serious to worry about what goes on in his life. He lives a few minutes away from me so he passes my house on the way home and he recently paid me a visit where he ended up trying to kiss me multiple times. I didn’t allow this because I couldn’t do that to his girlfriend whether I know her or not, though he said, “She probably does the same thing.” That made me wonder if he’d done something similar to me.I personally think he’s good-for-nothing for doing that, and I’m finding out he wasn’t who I thought he was. I’ve moved on and when he found out, he texted me and said, “I hear you have a boyfriend,” and tried to find out who he is by sending me pictures of people we know and asking if any of them were him. Am I really the “bad person” here? I also feel for the new woman, who, from what I see doesn’t know this guy at all.
You know, I’d just de-friend this guy, delete him from your phone and stop allowing him to stop by for random visits. Let the past stay in the past and MOA.
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