It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Dying to Meet His Mom” who was frustrated that her boyfriend of eight months still hadn’t introduced her to his mother, despite her mentioning several times that she’d like to meet her. After the jump, find out if introductions have finally been made.
Thanks so much for posting my letter! I was a little hurt by some of the negative conclusions that readers came to about my boyfriend. I just want to clarify that the situation really isn’t like that; I’m in a wonderful relationship with a good hearted and honest man, who goes out of his way daily to show me how much I’m cared for. I have absolutely no reasons whatsoever to suspect infidelity or deceit. I realize that I did not give many details about our personal situation, so I’m sure the readers were only trying to look out for me with what little information they had. Honestly, my boyfriend is the most respectful and considerate man I’ve ever been with. I was just looking for some positive suggestions on how to bridge the gap between myself and his family.
I just told him outright that the delay in meeting his family had made me feel left out. I told him how important he was in my life and that I needed him to take charge of this situation and show me that I am equally important in his. He said that he had absolutely no problem introducing me to his mother and the delay was certainly not intentional; it had just never occurred to him to invite me along when he goes to help with her household chores. So, he suggested that I accompany him the next time he was planning to see her. And I did! She was wonderful! It was so nice to finally put a face to the woman he’s told me so much about. Seeing the home where he grew up and all of his childhood school photographs lined up along walls made me feel so much closer to him, especially since our upbringings were so similar. I was also invited to his sister’s home to meet her and her fiance, so I’m thrilled and very much looking forward to that!
Great, glad to hear. Once again, communication wins all.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.