It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Emotional Wreck” whose relationship with her boyfriend had reached a boiling point over how she parented her two children from a previous relationship. She wrote: “I pulled up to the store and told the kids I would buy them an ice cream since they had been so good. He said I was spoiling them, and he got out of the car and took off walking. When we both finally got home, it was WW3. He began yelling at me extremely loudly saying I need to go to my other boyfriend and that maybe he could take me on all the dates I need to go on. He told me that I am crazy and I need to be on meds and that he will tell everyone I am on drugs even though I would never do them because I don’t like drugs at all and I lost a sister to them two years ago.”
Keep reading to see where things stand now.
Thank you for replying and sorry it took me so long to get back. I did end up leaving him. I packed one day while he was at work and took the kids to a friend’s place. When he came home, I told him that I was done and couldn’t take the stress and anger and resentment any longer. He tried to beg me to stay and said he would change, and I told him it’s been one too many times he has said that. Then I walked out the door and left.
I now have a new job, and the babies are doing great. They are so happy and carefree, and I am so thankful that I finally realized how much the fighting really hurt them. I only wish I would have read the reply before the time that I left. I probably would have left sooner.
Now I am just living for my babies and taking good care of them and “SPOILING” the hell out of them. I am in a better place now, they are in a better place now, and I hear Ben is in a better place now. I see him from time to time around town and he might wave here and there, but I don’t care to stop. I can’t fall back into old patterns, even if I do have feelings for him deep inside. My babies are too important to go back down that road.
Again, thank you for your help. PS, I keep my phone on silent everytime I’m in the car now.
I’m so glad to hear you did what’s best for you and your babies … and that you aren’t texting and driving anymore!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.