It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Employee with the Scarlet A,” whose co-worker’s girlfriend (a former co-worker) was spreading rumors about her and being an all-around biyatch. Find out whether she confronted the co-worker or his girlfriend and how things are going now.
It’s funny, because one of the other major reasons I disliked that job was because of our poorly handled HR department. There had been a time a while back where a male employee would make a habit of “accidentally” falling over onto women, including me, so he could have a chance to grope them repeatedly. Instead of firing him, our HR department let slip to our whole office which women had complained about him, and because he was a popular guy otherwise, the girls were given a unfriendly reaction by the other staff. Since then the office tended to have a “snitches get stitches” code of ethics, which was a big reason I did not feel confidant going to HR for this issue.
Right before I left though, that former guy friend came up to me and asked if I was leaving because of what people were saying about me and him. I told him that I wasn’t entirely leaving because of this situation, but I did feel really uncomfortable working there because of the rumors. I told him that I didn’t know why his fiancée disliked me and asked him if he was honest with her about our friendship and that we had been completely platonic. He started to look a little embarrassed and said something about how his fiancée’s friend, another ex co-worker, (sidenote: we all need to start getting new friends away from this job, ha) was really the one egging her on and was the one spreading the rumors. Who knows who did what; I’m just glad to be away from such a negative environment. Now I can ignore whatever new rumor she insists on telling our friends much more easily. Who knows, maybe they’ll bring me some cake from the wedding :).
Congrats on the news job! Here’s hoping there’s far less drama awaiting you there…
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.