It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Facebook Flashback” who got a friend request from the ex who impregnated her years ago. She gave the baby up for adoption, and the young couple soon broke up. They had agreed to stay in contact should their biological son want to look them up, but he “dropped off the planet” a few years after their breakup … until this random friend request one day. After the jump, find out if she accepted the request and whether they’re in touch again.
Now the update! I did ignore the friend request, but I replied to his message. I kept it short and said I was surprised to hear from him but didn’t give much more than that. I decided to let him do some of the talking and see if he really wanted to get back into contact. But guess what? I haven’t heard from him at all since his initial message. I figure maybe he was surprised to see that I didn’t come running back like a lost puppy like I would have years earlier. Or maybe he just didn’t really care about reconnecting and wanted to see what I was doing in life. Who knows. But I’ve taken everyone’s advice; I’m not worrying about him anymore.
Life was (and is) moving along just great without any contact from him, and will continue to do so!
Thanks again, Wendy! And thank you, readers!
Thanks for the update! I think you made the right decision.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at email@example.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.