It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Fit To Be Crossed” whose boyfriend was so obsessed with CrossFit that he skipped her daughter’s high school graduation to attend a CrossFit party. Keep reading to see whether she’s still fit to be crossed.
Well then, after I left, he came running back to me telling me he made a huge mistake–which then ticked her off. He then contacted my ex-husband through Facebook with her number. I called her because I knew my boyfriend wasn’t being upfront with me. She told me the ugly truth. Every bit of it and then some. I had to block her number and so did my boyfriend. She won’t stop. She even came in his house at 3 a.m. the other night. He had been lying to me all along, but now he says that he knows what he wants, which is for us to get married. All I can say is good for him. He may know now that I’m the one he wants, but I, as you can imagine, am devastated. Nothing is what it seemed. It was the ultimate betrayal. So as you can imagine, I am not happy.
When I read her update, I asked the LW what she was going to do — stay with him or MOA. She said:
I don’t know. We’ve been together a long time. I do or did love him. I’m glad he figured out what he wants. But how do I forgive the betrayal? The ultimate betrayal. It’s not like it was a one night stand, it was a nine-month relationship with another woman. It goes against everything I believe in to take him back. I cry everyday. I’m sick. It was so wrong. What would you do?
I replied: I’d MOA.
And then she said that that was what she thought, too.
Good luck, LW!
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