It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Found His Sex Site,” a woman who discovered that her boyfriend was a member of a sex site where he was sharing stories about his sex life with other women. Keep reading to see whether these two are still together.
I am building my trust of him. I just know he wouldn’t cheat on me and he is doing everything he can to get my trust back, to show me that he loves me. So far, since then, we argue a lot less and are generally happier now than we have been for a few months. Not sure if the issues with the site are to do with that or to do with other things or a mix.
I see your point [about being cautious that he was active on the site while he was with his ex]. But I know that I am nothing like his ex, and what I have with my boyfriend is very very different than what he had with her. She was physically and emotionally abusive towards him at times and that is partly why he went on the site in the first place, although I still think it was a really bad and horrible thing to do. But I obviously wasn’t a part of his life then, so his previous relationship isn’t really my business.
I wasn’t really snooping, he was asleep and his phone kept making noises so I picked it up to try find out how to put it on silent and came across the email while doing so — it was from the site so it was on the screen when his phone kept giving notifications.
He is happy to show me his emails now, like volunteers to, because I know how he really wants me to trust him again. I am just hoping for the best, really. Thank you for your help.
Well, best of luck to you, and thanks for the update!
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