It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Friendly Foul” who had been “banned” from her good guy friend’s life by his new wife. “During a drunk moment with Holly,” she wrote, “right before their wedding, I let slip that Devon and I had some of those awkward friends-thinking-about-being-something-else moments. Apparently, Devon never told Holly about them, and her reaction was to ban me from speaking with Devon ever again, including defriending me on Facebook.” After the jump, find out if the LW is still banned from Devon’s life.
I did what you suggested and wrote a text message note to Devon in October. I received no response from him. Over a month later, just a few days ago, I received a text message from his phone number, but clearly not from him. It reads as follows:
‘Listen you f***ing C*NT. Stay away from my husband or I will ruin you. Grow up and stop being a disrespectful pig. I’m sorry your marriage is shit but that doesn’t give you license to interfere with mine. Get it through your head- Devon doesn’t want you, he never did and never will. Now that he knows what a disruptive disloyal person you are you have no place in his life at all. You clearly don’t know who you are messing with.’
Needless to say, I definitely wasn’t expecting that response. At this point my family and I are on alert for anything, wondering if we’re going to have to take steps to protect ourselves from Holly. I understood why she decided she didn’t want me in their lives, but this kind of a response seems way off the deep end. At this point even if Devon and I ran into each other on the street I would run the other direction. I can only hope that he’s happy and that they are happy together, because that type of a response makes me believe that Holly is crazy.
I can’t help wondering if he knows that she sent the message, but regardless, we’re taking steps to protect ourselves.
Woah. I guess you won’t be getting a Christmas card from this this year.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.