It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Girl with the Part Time Boyfriend,’ whose boyfriend of seven months, whom she saw herself with in the long run, worked out of town so often that he was sometimes only home two days a month, and even then he had other people he wanted to see and things he needed to do. “Having told him I don’t want to do this much more than another year, should I just MOA if nothing’s changed by then? I’m just afraid that I’ll end up waiting forever.” It’s been over a year and a half since she wrote in. Keep reading to see if her boyfriend is still on the road all the time.
Shortly after my letter was posted, he got offered a job – in a beautiful and fun part of the country – that wouldn’t require constant travel. We’ve been here a little over a year, and we are happier now than ever. We went over the list of 15 things to talk about before moving in together that you posted, which helped, but I will say moving all the way across the country can be HARD. Luckily, I got a great job in my field right away, but I will say that making friends once you’re out of college is a lot more difficult. You actually have to try, because circumstances aren’t always throwing you in front of the friendship bus.
Now I have several friends though!! And a cat!! And a job I love!! And my boyfriend is still sweet to me!! So while it was a little lonely at first, it was definitely worth it.
He still gets to travel as well about one week per month, so it’s a good compromise for the both of us. Also, he brings me home presents every time! Who doesn’t love presents?
Also to clarify, I had known my boyfriend for about 4 years before we started dating, so I knew that he was a quality man and stand-up person! I think someone mentioned in the comments that they were concerned that he was using me for what lies between my bellybutton and knees, but that’s not the case.
So thank you, Wendy, and everyone who commented!
What a wonderful update. Glad things have worked out so well for you two. Here’s to continued happiness.
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