Updates: “Hands Off My Man!” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Hands Off My Man!” who was upset that her boyfriend’s boss seemed to be seducing him and the boyfriend wasn’t doing much to stop her. Keep reading to find out how the situation has changed.
I read the advice and found it really interesting, and all the comments were illuminating as well! I actually have an update for you, as something happened just this evening to sort of make the letter I wrote moot. But first…I noticed a lot of commenters were curious about my boyfriend’s and my ages. I actually left that information out of the letter purposely. I didn’t want to have to explain the whole situation and defend the relationship and everything, because it is a bit unorthodox. I’m 27 and my boyfriend is 20, which I know sounds like a huge age difference, and I’m sure it’s making everyone go: “Ahhh, well there’s your problem…” but actually, we have a great relationship. I dropped out of college to be musician, so we’re both at similar places in our lives. He’s mature for his age and I’m a bit immature for my age (I mean, compared to my friends with careers and mortgages and babies). At the same time, because of his age, he can be immature in some ways. I don’t doubt he was enjoying his boss’ attention and the extra perks of her crush, but he also didn’t really get how serious it was.
Tonight at their holiday party she got completely wasted and threw herself at him by backing him into a corner and trying to kiss him. He was really freaked out and told me all about it. So now he definitely understands why I was upset about it, and will be transferring away from that location after the new year. So all’s well that ends well!
Thanks again for all the help, you guys definitely helped me look at the situation in new lights!
Thanks for the update!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.