It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Homesick and Lovesick” who missed her family 1000 miles away but didn’t want to leave her boyfriend who was unable to move until his young son finished high school. “If we were married, there would be no question where I should be, but for right now we are just dating,” she wrote. Keep reading to see where things stand now.
He said everything I wanted to hear, so, after thinking about my feelings for him, I decided to give it another try. I do miss my family, but I also want him in my life. He is a great man! So, yes, I gave up the chance again to move. I still have to deal with my family missing me and me missing them. It’s like jumping off a cliff and hoping that I will be caught at the bottom. But this is the only way I can have my parents and him in my life. There could be that chance that maybe my parents could move here or visit more often. But I know that he would not be able to move for a while.
Also, to answer a couple people’s questions, my boyfriend is very serious about me and would love to marry me soon. I never pressured him to get married because I was trying to figure out what to do! I am believing that all of this will work out somehow.
Thanks for the update and best of luck to you in the future!
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