It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Hurt Wife” who needed some validation that divorcing her cheating, manipulative, verbally abusive husband after 18 years of marriage didn’t make her an awful person. Keep reading to see whether she pulled the trigger.
We have been going to counseling, but honestly I don’t see it going anywhere. More and more I dream of what life will be like for me “after the divorce,” yet here I am, still married. I can’t seem to find the right time. It’s his birthday this weekend… we are visiting my daughter in college next weekend… it’s Easter … etc. Maybe there isn’t a right time and I just need some courage. I re-read your reply and all of the other wonderful letters of encouragement, and I start believing in myself a little more.
Thank you for your advice; it really means a lot for me. Wish me luck!!
Be strong and keep your eyes on the prize. There’s a life of dignity, independence, and freedom for you if you just go after it.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at email@example.com.