Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Updates: “Intern Love” Responds (Again)

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Intern Love,” whose letter appeared in a shortcuts column last fall. She asked why this guy whom she dated for a few weeks while he was in her town for an internship had suddenly seemed to lose interest once he returned home. She updated us once before saying she had taken my advice and moved on already. And now she has a new update she wants to share:

As I wrote in my first update, I started seeing a new guy a few months after the intern disappeared. We met on eHarmony and I was over the intern (way over him now). Well, the guy I met on eHarmony just proposed to me on a mountain top in North Carolina! It was so sweet and wonderful. We made a long romantic weekend out of it in Asheville, NC and had a wonderful time.

This man I met is incredible — just a great guy I am so lucky to have. We are planning a wedding for summer 2013. I just want to tell all the girls out there looking for their soulmate, no matter how old you are, keep looking and keep yourself open to meeting him. If you are dating someone who gives you a lot of heartache, move on already, because “the one,” won’t do that to you. The relationship with your soulmate won’t be perfect, and you might have a little argument here and there because no one is perfect, but the relationship will flow and grow nicely, relatively smoothly without a lot crying and a lot of doubts.

I met my soulmate on eHarmony at 32, I was getting to the point where I wasn’t sure I would ever meet anyone, and I was feeling horrible from that dumb intern. But I kept myself open and found Rob, and now we’re going to get married.

 
Congratulations!! And thanks for a happy update to kick-off Thanksgiving.

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    lemongrass November 21, 2012, 12:10 pm

    Aww, that’s a nice update! Congrats, LW!

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    Leah November 21, 2012, 12:13 pm

    Awww! This is so sweet!

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    lets_be_honest November 21, 2012, 12:13 pm

    Aw, this is great. Congrats and thanks for giving some good advice of your own!

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    bethany November 21, 2012, 12:52 pm

    Awesome!! Congrats!!

    Also, it made me so happy to read this: “no matter how old you are, keep looking and keep yourself open to meeting him. If you are dating someone who gives you a lot of heartache, move on already, because “the one,” won’t do that to you.”

    You’re so right. When you’re with the right person, it’s not so hard all the time. Yeah, there are trying times, and you have to work at it, but when you’re in the right relationship you have more good times than bad, and you won’t be all wrapped up in drama!

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    jlyfsh November 21, 2012, 12:52 pm

    Great update. And gorgeous place to get engaged! Hope you made it to the Biltmore and visited a few wineries while you were there! 🙂

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    sarahkat November 21, 2012, 12:54 pm

    1. Makes a remark suggesting 32 seems an age usually too old to find love.

    2. Refers to women as “girls” and makes a very outdated Sex and The City reference.

    3. Shares a fictitious sounding engagement story and plugs an online dating service.

    4. Uses the word soulmate.

    Yup, I’m pretty sure we’ve been long-conned by an eHarmony spam bot.

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      j.walker November 21, 2012, 5:39 pm

      Holy shit!

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    sarolabelle November 21, 2012, 1:13 pm

    I LOVE NC mountains! My husband told me he loved me for the first time at the top of South Mountain. <3

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      Eve Harrison November 21, 2012, 2:00 pm

      I guess the clear air clears minds. :3

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    thewriteway November 21, 2012, 1:43 pm

    Congratulations! I’m 27 and sometimes, when I see people my age all getting married or are already married, sometimes I lose hope. But then I realize it’s not too late…heck, my mom married her now-third husband when she was 38 and they have now outlasted hers and my dad’s marriage. Thanks for reminding me that there is still a chance if I put myself out there!

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    Taylor November 21, 2012, 2:36 pm

    Sweet update!
    Does anyone else keep checking the site for the usual Friday goodies? So close to the long weekend…I can almost taste it…

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    GatorGirl November 21, 2012, 2:46 pm

    Woah speed racer.

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      jlyfsh November 21, 2012, 3:00 pm

      i don’t know, it’s been 9 months, they’re both presumably out of their 20s and probably more ready to settle down and probably had an idea of what they wanted based on past relationships that didn’t work out, etc. now that most of friends are over 30 i see relationships going much quicker between the time they start dating and the time they get engaged.

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        GatorGirl November 21, 2012, 3:10 pm

        Well it’s been 9 months since the last update so presumably less than that spent dating. IDK it might be right for them, they are the only one’s who know. But it is WAY WAY to fast for my comfort. I mean you’re not even out of the honeymoon phase of a relationship yet!

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        camorzilla November 21, 2012, 3:12 pm

        I totally agree. I think when you’re older, theoretically you know more of what you want out of a relationship. I know that I did. My now husband and I moved in together at 3 1/2 months, got engaged at 8 months, and got married at 18 months. We had the important conversations early but I knew what I was looking for and I wasn’t going to waste my time on someone who didn’t have similar life goals. When we met I was 27 and he was 30 and when we got married I was 29 and he was 31.

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    WatersEdge November 21, 2012, 5:33 pm

    I met my husband on eharmony too, and we were engaged after 11 months. Freakin love that site!

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    GTR November 21, 2012, 10:10 pm

    Honey, in order for you to understand why your update is so irritating, I want imagine what would have happened if current-you had started prattling on about soulmates and the power of love to then-you back in 2011.

    Would you have a) said, “Oh my, you are so insightful and inspirational! Thank you!” or b) punched her gushing, smug, self-satisfied lights out?

    Exactly.

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