It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Just Not Feeling It,” a woman who originally wrote in when, in her late-30s, she wasn’t feeling much passion for the guy she was seeing but worried that time was running out for her to find someone else. She updated us once before after she ended things with her boyfriend, saying: “I felt instant relief once it ended because it made me realize how miserable I was hanging out with someone I wasn’t into. Trying to talk yourself into being with someone who’s ‘Good on Paper’ is exhausting and not something I’d recommend.” She also said she’d just started dating someone new she felt better relationship potential with. Keep reading for her update.
Absolutely! And congrats! This is a good reminder that as long as you’re tied up with someone who isn’t right for you, waiting and hoping things might change, you are keeping yourself unavailable for someone who could be right for you right off the bat.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.