It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Left of the Guest List,” a guy who was peeved about not being invited to his girlfriend’s daughter’s wedding. Keep reading to see if things were resolved.
My girlfriend and I finally had our discussion about why I was left off of the guest list to her daughter’s wedding. It was not an easy discussion. She thought I had no interest in going to her daughter’s wedding. I asked her “what made her come to that conclusion.” I told her that I was hurt by not even being asked or told I wasn’t invited. She did apologize for her not even asking if I wanted to go. It was a very hard discussion to have, and by the time we had it, it was too late for me to attend because I could not get the time off work on such short notice.
It still hurts when I think about it, but I am trying to get a handle on it. I do think we cleared the air. I did tell her that if I “didn’t care” it wouldn’t hurt. But it did hurt because I do care. I do hope and believe in time I will get over it because I care a great deal for her. Thank you again for your advice. Without it I probably never would have said anything and it could have had a bad ending.
Thanks for the update. Best of luck to you both — and to the bride.
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