It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Line in the Sand” who decided on a date she wanted to be living with her boyfriend of six years and wondered whether she should tell him the date or keep it to herself. Keep reading to see where things stand now, over a year later.
What I continue to realize (and frankly, we both continue to realize) is that there are times when we just really need to talk it out. I feel like it’s often easier to avoid the difficult conversations, and that seems to be a common theme for a lot of letter writers – perhaps you should have “Talk it out Tuesdays” to respond to letters where the best advice is just to talk about the issue at hand. For the people we love and care about, we shouldn’t be afraid/worried to bring up the topics that are dwelling on our minds. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, friend relationship, work relationship or something else, often times talking about it is the best or only way to really resolve the issue.
Thank you, Wendy, for the advice and thank you, fellow readers, for always providing such interesting letters and comments!
Congratulations on your engagement and for good lessons learned.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at email@example.com.