It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Losing Patience” a 24-year-old woman with a brain tumor who was disappointed in the lack of support she was receiving from her on-again/off-agin 20-year-old girlfriend. Keep reading to see how she’s doing health-wise and relationship-wise.
My omissions to my family were due to my younger sister just escaping from a dangerous relationship and dealing with an unplanned pregnancy from that abusive situation. She needed my parents’ attention and assistance more than I felt I did. I needed someone to talk to, but I should not have leaned on my ex.
At first I told her everything, but then I ended up leaving out many details; I didn’t want her to get too involved, nor see the bad decisions I was making. The constant fighting between us seems now like the last thing I should have worried myself over. A final fight between us made me realize we both needed to let go permanently for multiple reasons. It wasn’t an amicable ending; however, I will always wish her the best.
I learned from my mistakes and made better decisions, and now, several months later, my health has recovered and I’m moving on towards getting my career in order. I’m currently in the beginning stages of a much healthier relationship, volunteering, doing an internship, and heading towards a rewarding life. Thank you for your time.
Wonderful news! Thanks for a great update, and best of luck to you.
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