It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Mama Drama” whose already-shakey relationship with her mother was further tested when her mom forged her signature on a refund check that was mistakenly sent to her house. Addie Pray answered her question about whether it was worth pressing charges. Keep reading to see how she decided to proceed and what their relationship is like now.
In the recent months we have had some contact — some good and some bad. I’ve found that a phone call every month or so seems to go fine, but anything more than that and she reverts to her bad behavior. It is sad that permanent improvement or even understanding of the problem is not possible, but I’ve made peace with the fact that I need to do what’s healthy for me. I’d like to thank Addie Pray for the advice and also thank the commenters who shared their situations and made me feel less guilty and less alone. That meant more than anything to me.
Thank you for the update! I’m sorry you don’t have the relationship with your mother than you’d like, but glad that you’ve found some peace with the situation (and that you were refunded the money).
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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