It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Married to a 16-Year-Old” who wrote last week about being sick of her husband acting like a 16-year-old the one day each week he spent his day off with his childhood best friend. Keep reading to see how they’ve resolved things (for now, at least).
I have two side notes as well: I have come to realize that the commenters are EXTREMELY judgmental. I wrote my letter when I was pissed off still at my husband, and that clearly was projected in my letter. I promise I am not a nag or anything like that, I just like having a nice home and appreciate when my husband pitches in..that doesn’t make me a “control freak” or a “bitch” as the commenters were quick to let me know! Also, after the letter got published, I went and confessed to my husband that I wrote your column because I realized that I came off as a total bitch in my letter. He asked what your advice was. I told him I got put on blast and put in check by both you and everyone else. He literally started cracking up and said, “Well, sometimes you just have to hear it from someone other than me.” He took it really well and has laughed it off!
One last note…I have been actively trying to find T a woman…but it’s hard to pitch to a sane woman a guy who is still living at home at 32 and who has no job and no car. That said, I am still working on it
Thanks for the update! Those sound like good solutions to your problem.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at email@example.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.