It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Miscarried with FWB” who had an early miscarriage (before knowing she was pregnant) and wondered if she should tell the FWB she’d been sleeping with. “I want to tell him, but I’m not sure what his reaction will be. But he’s a really great guy who I believe is mature enough to handle this — I’m just scared of what he will think of me afterwards.” She wrote. After the jump, find out whether she decided to tell him or not.
I’m glad you made a decision that’s best for you; I only hope you don’t still worry about what your friend will “think of you” if you ever tell him about the pregnancy and miscarriage. The miscarriage was not your fault, and the pregnancy didn’t happen without his equal involvement, so there’s nothing at all you should feel judged by him for.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.